Quotes About Expectations

If others feel they have to change you, that means they really don't love you just the way you are. So why be with someone if you're not the way he or she wants you to be?

Making assumptions in our relationships is really asking for problems. Often we make the assumption that our partners know what we think and that we don't have to say what we want. We assume they are going to do what we want, because they know us so well. If they don't do what we assume they should do, we feel so hurt and say, "You should have known.

We are told, "You're a good boy," or "You're a good girl," when we do what Mom and Dad want us to do. When we don't, we are "a bad girl" or "a bad boy." When we went against the rules we were punished; when we went along with the rules we got a reward. We were punished many times a day, and we were also rewarded many times a day. Soon we became afraid of being punished and also afraid of not receiving the reward.

After domestication, we try to be good enough for everybody else, but we are no longer good enough for ourselves, because we can never live up to our image of perfection.

Just being ourselves is the biggest fear of humans. We have learned to live our lives trying to satisfy other people's demands. We have learned to live by other people's points of view because of the fear of not being accepted and of not being good enough for someone else.

Happiness never comes from outside of us. He was happy because of the love coming out of him; she was happy because of the love coming out of her. But as soon as he made her responsible for his happiness, she broke the star because she could not be responsible for his happiness.

Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal.

Most people live their entire lives in the track of fear. They are in a relationship because they feel they have to be. They are in a relationship where they have all those expectations about their partner and about themselves. All that drama and suffering is because we are using the channels of communication that existed before we were born.

We look for love, we open our heart and we become vulnerable, just to find selfishness.

But as soon as he made her responsible for his happiness, she broke the star because she could not be responsible for his happiness. No

Hacer suposiciones en las relaciones conduce a muchas disputas, dificultades y malentendidos con las personas que supuestamente amamos.

Por miedo a ser castigados o por miedo a no recibir una recompensa empezamos a tratar de complacer a otras personas. Intentamos ser buenos porque la gente mala no recibe recompensas y se la castiga.

El amor es incondicional. El miedo está lleno de condiciones. En

Hacer suposiciones en nuestras relaciones significa buscarse problemas. A menudo, suponemos que nuestra pareja sabe lo que pensamos y que no es necesario que le digamos lo que queremos. Suponemos que hará lo que queremos porque nos conoce muy bien. Si no hace lo que creemos que debería hacer, nos sentimos realmente heridos y decimos: «Deberías haberlo sabido».

Of course, if you decide to live with someone, if you make that agreement, it is always better to make that agreement with someone who is exactly the way you want him or her to be.

We have learned to live our lives trying to satisfy other people's demands.

We are not good enough for ourselves because we don't fit with our own image of perfection. We cannot forgive ourselves for not being what we wish to be, or rather what we believe we should be. We cannot forgive ourselves for not being perfect.

We cannot forgive ourselves for not being what we wish to be, or rather what we believe we should be. We cannot forgive ourselves for not being perfect.

During the process of domestication, we form an image of what perfection is in order to try to be good enough. We create an image of how we should be in order to be accepted by everybody. We especially try to please the ones who love us, like Mom and Dad, big brothers and sisters, the priests and the teacher. Trying to be good enough for them, we create an image of perfection, but we don't fit this image. We create this image, but this image is not real.

Just being ourselves is the biggest fear of humans. We have learned to live our life trying to satisfy other people's demands. We have learned to live by other people's points of view because of the fear of not being accepted and of not being good enough for someone else.

All your life you tried to be good enough for somebody else, and you left yourself last. You sacrificed your personal freedom to live according to somebody else's point of view. You tried to be good enough for your mother, your father, your teachers, your beloved, your children, your religion, and society. After trying for so many years, you try to be good enough for yourself, and you find out that you're not good enough for yourself.

El amor es incondicional. El miedo está lleno de condiciones.

Tras la domesticación, ya no se trata de que seamos lo suficientemente buenos para los demás. No somos lo bastante buenos para nosotros mismos porque no encajamos en nuestra propia

Debido a ese miedo a ser castigados y a no recibir la recompensa, empezamos a fingir que éramos lo que no éramos, con el único fin de complacer a los demás, de ser lo bastante buenos para otras personas.