Quotes About Expectations

How could a person go to the store, buy everything she needed—and wanted, from the look of some of those carts—and still seem dissatisfied? What more did they need to be happy, then? If all this wouldn't do it?

We did exactly what we were supposed to do." "Us?" he asked. "Yes. Us. We did exactly what our parents taught us. We got married in the church, and we tried to have a bunch of kids. We lived the life everybody told us was right. And now look at us. Tina is gone. We're apart. Why did we do just what we were supposed to do if it wasn't even going to make us happy?

There's a reason people will always let you down. It's because they came to this weird planet to live their own lives. Not anybody else's. Classic case of needs in conflict.

I was born with the caul. According to Grandma Ginsberg, this signified great things. But it proved a disappointment. Yes, I was the smartest child in all of my classes, the most morbidly mature that any of my teachers had seen, save my sister DeeDee. Yes, I was spiritually advanced, but in my family this was nothing special.

Make your peace with that. Then, if you get to keep talking to them or seeing them, it'll be a happy surprise.

Thing is," he said, "there's only just so many times people can break their promises to you before you start figuring everybody does it.

Everybody's on their best behavior during courting. That's just how the world works. It's how people work. Then, when they figure they've got you for keeps, that's when you find out what you've really gotten yourself into.

Most big life events are like that. You think they'll be emotionally one-sided, but when you actually get into them, it's always more complex.

My older relatives grabbed me and latched onto me, and I felt like they wanted something from me. Their love felt like a demand. Then I let go and they pinched my cheeks and kissed them, and it only made me feel drained, like I had all the love and they only wanted to refill their tanks by taking some of mine.

people want you to do what they think

I never know what to make of relationships. Part of me feels like they're not right, but then another part of me doesn't know how right it's reasonable to expect them to be.

it's silly to get mad at someone for letting you down when they're just being who they are. She said it's like getting mad at your dog for not being a cat.

Funny how we get so adjusted to exactly what we should see on every human body we encounter.

I'm letting you down. I get that. People always will. That's not as much of a downer as it sounds. There's a reason people will always let you down. It's because they came to this weird planet to live their own lives. Not anybody else's. Classic case of needs in conflict. You get what I'm saying?

Most big life events are like that. You think they'll be emotionally one-sided, but when you actually get into them, it's always more complex." - Nathan

Once, my father chastised me in the car on the way home because he said I didn't act like I wanted to be there. I didn't want to be there. Nobody had warned me that I was supposed to act.

The reason people are unhappy is because they're so sure they know what they want. And then it makes them unhappy when they don't get it. I personally think people would be happier if they weren't so sure they knew the difference between a good thing and a bad thing.

But it made him feel ashamed to say it, because it wasn't entirely true. He felt it shouldn't have mattered. But it did. He had wanted everyone to see his talented hen. He had wanted to fill to bursting with pride while everyone watched.

what's worse, if you're expected not to show your feelings, or if you're expected to show them so they can be disregarded?

I know a man," he said, "A man who taught me that the reason people aren't happy is because they have these ideas about what the world should be. And the world is never just what they think it ought to be. If the world has to be a certain way for you to be happy, then you'll never be happy. Heck, I'm only twelve and even I know that.

You worry too much. You think you have to do too much. Like you think you're always just about to make some terrible mistake. There's nothing wrong with wanting to learn to dump the tanks. There's nothing wrong with making coffee for me or walking the dog. It's nice. But I get a feeling you're doing it because you always feel like you need to do more. To be more. Like if you don't make yourself useful, you're not entitled to the air you breathe.

we weren't put here on earth to take care of each other. And that it's silly to get mad at someone for letting you down when they're just being who they are. She said it's like getting mad at your dog for not being a cat." Then

Why do we do work we hate all our lives? Somewhere earlier on the road somebody must have made us feel that we didn't have an option to do otherwise. I'm sure it gets psychologically complex

You see something you like in a man, so you ask him in, but what comes in is all of him. Not only the parts you took a liking to, but the many parts that don't fit with you at all.