Quotes About Emotional intelligence

Not to know yourself is dangerous, to that self and to others. Those who destroy, who cause great suffering, kill off some portion of themselves first, or hide from the knowledge of their acts and from their own emotion, and their internal landscape fills with partitions, caves, minefields, blank spots, pit traps, and more, a landscape turned against itself, a landscape that does not know itself, a landscape through which they may not travel.

addressing our own suffering while learning not to inflict it on others is part of the work we're all here to do.

Those who are in the habit of correcting others are often resented and avoided.

Without getting too psychoanalytical about it, the reason we are tempted to put others down, correct them, or show them how we're right and they're wrong is that our ego mistakenly believes that if we point out how someone else is wrong, we must be right, and therefore we will feel better.

Your thoughts always create your emotions. Understanding the significance of this fact is the first step in escaping from unhappiness and depression.

Rather than stumbling and fighting against their negative feelings, they are graceful in their acceptance of them.

Contrary to popular belief, negative feelings don't need to be studied and analyzed. When you analyze your negative feelings, you'll usually end up with more of them to contend with. The

And what there is to learn from almost any human experience is that your own interests usually do not come first where other people are concerned--even the people who love you--and that is all right. It can be lived with.

don't see what this has to do with us." I say back, "Does everything have to be about you? Can you not project yourself outside yourself? Can you not take on another's life for your own benefit?

Shouts and blows may have won arguments for you in the past, fellow. They are pointless in the current situation.

part of the mind's job was to cast doubt on what the heart knew to be true, and the heart, because it had no words, often lost the argument

I would never do anything just for spite.

We are trying to retrain our responses and form mental habits that are kinder, gentler, and less fearful of others.

it is neither helpful nor accurate to assume that other people are always responsible for our pain.

The Golden Rule requires self-knowledge; it asks that we use our own feelings as a guide to our behavior with others. If we treat ourselves harshly, this is the way we are likely to treat other people. So we need to acquire a healthier and more balanced knowledge of our strengths as well as our weaknesses. As

what Tibetan Buddhists call "the inability to bear the sight of another's sorrow," so that we feel it almost as intensely as we feel our own. We

True listening means more than simply hearing the words that are spoken. We have to become alert to the underlying message too and hear what is not uttered aloud. Angry

the Golden Rule, which asks us to look into our own hearts, discover what gives us pain, and then refuse, under any circumstance whatsoever, to inflict that pain on anybody else.

Hearing a heart drop is an art we must lovingly cultivate. It can lead to the most wonderful times of encouragement as we make it our habit to listen and to love.

Over the years I've come to feel that the way people respond to us has less to do with what we've done and more to do with who they are.

You didn't help chop up a two-hundred-fifty-pound man and still graduate at the top of your class without learning how to compartmentalize.

It might do you some good to remember that at the end of the day, no matter how smart that brain of yours is up there, it's your heart that needs looking after.

As I expected, Paul immediately apologized for not asking me whether or not he could date Claire. He is nothing if not a good mimic of appropriate behaviors. Had we been in person rather than on the telephone, I am certain he would've dropped to bended knee as he asked for my permission. But he wasn't, so it was his voice that conveyed the respect and feeling. Conveyed.

Her capacity for detail was astounding, if not highly annoying during arguments.