Quotes About Emotional intelligence

got that when a person is rude and abusive to me, it's not about me at all. They can say something terrible to me or about me, but they're revealing themselves, not me. It has nothing to do with me. They're just showing me the landscape on the inside of themselves as they project it out onto somebody else. Does that make sense?

I just blurted it out. I wasn't really thinking. I do that all the time. Talk first, think later. It's my curse. I'm really sorry.

Everyone knows, on some deep level, the conversations in which they don't belong. Chloe

All the way down to my gut I got something I'd never gotten before. I got that when a person is rude and abusive to me, it's not about me at all. They can say something terrible to me or about me, but they're revealing themselves, not me. It has nothing to do with me. They're just showing me the landscape on the inside of themselves as they project it out onto somebody else. Does that make sense? It's the first time I've tried to put it into words.

You're not using your head, dear," she says. "No, of course I'm not," he says. "I'm using my heart.

As long as I live, I'm never going to do what they're doing. I made myself a promise. And now I'm making the promise to you. I'm never going to judge somebody I don't know. And if somebody is accused of something in the newspaper or on TV, I'm going to remember that maybe he did it or maybe he didn't. I wasn't there, so I don't know.

if you meet someone you don't like, or who doesn't treat you right, try to reserve judgment, because you don't know what that person's going through, and it's probably not so much about you at all.

brine shrimp were not overly talkative, squirrels failed to make significant headway in the fields of technology and mathematics, and seagulls were clearly unburdened by reason, feeling, or remorse.

I readied myself for the great effort of speaking with the throat-and-belly instead of the mind-and-heart. It is altogether a different skill.

You can't blame a book for its story.

There are three things that it is never too late to say: Thank you, I'm Sorry, and I love You.

I'm lucky that my real-life Mom has both a great sense of humor about herself and an amazing ability to slip into complete denial if the subject matter gets a little too close to home.

You aren't stupid, Lillian,' said Uncle Victor, smiling and shaking his head, 'but sometimes the things you do are.

Crawling into the skin of the other (empathy). 'It must be hard to …' 176

If you do not understand a man you cannot crush him. And if you do understand him, very probably you will not.

There is a road from the eye to the heart that does not go through the intellect.

That judgments close hearts should be pretty obvious. Judgments come from a closed heart, so naturally they also cause others to close their hearts. Judgments are a perfect example of an internal reality, or climate, determining one's external reality. When you openly judge others, you will be judged in return, as predictably as the night follows the day.

It doesn't take the partner's words and actions personally.

It's the inner life that fucks up relationships.

Good for you, you have a heart, you can be a liberal. Now, couple your heart with your brain, and you can be a conservative.

But, she fancied, she would not be able to be really unintelligent again, not even if she tried; so much having happened to her.

Mistrust all those in whom the desire to punish is imperative - Goethe

if we cultivate compassion for those who have hurt us, we have the possibility of overcoming our anger,pain, and fear. compassion is a great medicine.

You can be smart and happy or stupid and miserable. . . it's your choice