Quotes About Emotional intelligence

She saw, more or less, how the whole thing had happened, for she had the gift—which is often a doubtful blessing—of being able to see the other person's point of view, of being able to put herself in the other person's place.

I was the type of person that would show a PowerPoint presentation about why I should do something versus crying and screaming over it.

I am vibe oriented and am able to read people right most of the time.

We are not a victim of our emotions or thoughts. We can understand our triggers and use them as tools to help us respond more objectively.

You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view.

I have always had this view about the modern education system: we pay attention to brain development, but the development of warmheartedness we take for granted.

You're very good at organizing your feelings, aren't you?" Christopher had asked dryly. "I suppose I am. I wish I could organize yours. At present they seem to resemble an overturned drawer of neckcloths." "Not neckcloths," he said. "Flatware, with sharp edges." Audrey had smiled. "I pity those who find themselves in the way of your feelings.

Lucy waited patiently, knowing that he did want to talk, or he wouldn't have put on such a performance when he came in. Heath's door slamming was always an announcement that a conversation was in order.

Most men don't seem to get that telling a pissed-off woman to calm down is like throwing gunpowder on a fire." ~ Liberty Jones

But some men can only read their internal weather report and have no concept that another human might not want the same things they want.

I'm trying to impress upon my students that everyone has a history. Just because we're not always happy with what's true doesn't mean we shouldn't know it. It's how we learn. It's how we do better in the future. Hopefully, anyway.

always assume people's behaviors are a reaction to something I've done, not that they're just doing their thing.

Sometimes we must try to view the actions of those around us with forgiveness. We must realize that they are going on the only road they can see.

His heart and his brain were utterly foreign to all vindictiveness or personal bitterness. He declared himself hotly and strongly against wrong causes, but never against men.

It is the heart and not the brain, That to the highest doth attain.

Men, as well as women, are much oftener led by their hearts than by their understandings.

Your feelings don't have to mesh with what you think they should be," he explained. "They'll be there regardless, so you might as well welcome them because they hold important clues.

every decision they make is based on two things: fear and love. Therapy strives to teach you how to tell the two apart.

In idiot compassion, you avoid rocking the boat to spare people's feelings, even though the boat needs rocking and your compassion ends up being more harmful than your honesty.

Our training has taught us theories and tools and techniques, but whirring beneath our hard-earned expertise is the fact that we know just how hard it is to be a person. Which is to say, we still come to work each day as ourselves—with our own sets of vulnerabilities, our own longings and insecurities, and our own histories. Of all my credentials as a therapist, my most significant is that I'm a card-carrying member of the human race.

Everyone wages this internal battle to some degree: Child or adult? Safety or freedom? But no matter where people fall on those continuums, every decision they make is based on two things: fear and love. Therapy strives to teach you how to tell the two apart.

I'm mindful of the fact that Very Angry People aren't Very Approachable.

Cuando caes en la compasión del idiota, evitas agitar las aguas para no lastimar a otra persona, aunque las aguas necesiten ser agitadas y tu compasión acabe resultando más perjudicial que tu sinceridad.

When working with couples on empathy, often I'll say, "Before you speak, ask yourself, What is this going to feel like to the person I'm speaking to? " I make a mental note to share this with John one day.