Quotes About Connection

Seasoned parents and child therapists will also tell you that some of the best conversations with children take place while something else is happening. Children are much more apt to share and talk while building something, playing cards, or riding in the car than when you sit down and look them right in the face and ask them to open up.

añadiremos que casi todas las preguntas y dilemas con respecto a la labor de los padres se circunscriben a la idea de relación, así que en eso vamos a centrarnos aquí.

connection offers the short-term benefit of moving kids from reactivity to receptivity, and the long-term benefit of building the brain.

Estar presente significa poner todo tu ser –tu atención y tu conciencia– cuando estés con tu hijo.

Parents often respond to their child's behavior by focusing on the surface level of the experience and not on the deeper level of the mind.

It's not how our parents raised us, or how many parenting books we've read. It's actually how well we've made sense of our experiences with our own parents and how sensitive we are to our children that most powerfully influence our relationship with our kids,

En realidad, sin embargo, la conducta de búsqueda de atención no solo es totalmente apropiada desde el punto de vista del desarrollo, sino que en realidad es relacional. La atención es una necesidad de todos los niños en todas partes.

when a child is upset, logic often won't work until we have responded to the right brain's emotional needs. We call this emotional connection "attunement," which is how we connect deeply with another person and allow them to "feel felt." When parent and child are tuned in to each other, they experience a sense of joining together.

human connections shape neural connections, and each contributes to mind. Relationships and neural linkages together shape the mind. Mind is more than the sum of its parts; this is the essence of emergence.

spoiling has nothing to do with connecting with your child when he's upset or making bad choices. Remember, you can't spoil a child by giving him too much emotional connection, attention, physical affection, or love. When our children need us, we need to be there for them.

stage, and what they are ultimately capable of. This is how we use our own mindsight skills to see the mind behind our children's behavior.

Would you like to walk to the car? Or I can carry you there. It's your choice." Then she'd need to make it happen. So yes, we want to always connect with our children emotionally.

Y cuando un padre o una madre está alterado, es muy difícil que un niño esté tranquilo y feliz.

Explained most simply, mindsight is the ability to see our own mind, as well as the mind of another. It allows us to develop meaningful relationships while also maintaining a healthy and independent sense of self. When we ask our children to consider their own feelings (using personal insight) while also imagining how someone else might experience a particular situation (using empathy), we are helping them develop mindsight.

We're also not talking about wearing yourself (and your kids) out by frantically trying to fill every experience with significance and meaning. We're talking about simply being present with your children so you can help them become better integrated.

Cuando los niños incrementan la capacidad de conocerse a sí mismos, de tener en cuenta los sentimientos de los demás y de tomar medidas para arreglar una situación, crean y fortalecen conexiones en el lóbulo frontal, lo cual les permite conocerse mejor y llevarse bien con los otros mientras avanzan hacia la adolescencia y la edad adulta.

Neurons that fire together wire together, changing the changeable brain.

deep, empathic connection can and should be combined with clear and firm boundaries that create needed structure in children's lives.

research is really clear on this point. Kids who achieve the best outcomes in life—emotionally, relationally, and even educationally—have parents who raise them with a high degree of connection and nurturing, while also communicating and maintaining clear limits and high expectations.

If the sponge (mirror) neurons are our receiver, then our subcortical areas are the amplifier. These subcortical shifts are what changes in us when we attune to someone else.

Simply by drawing your child's attention to other people's emotions during everyday encounters, you can open up whole new levels of compassion within them and exercise their upstairs brain. Scientists are beginning more and more to think

We don't simply react to their external actions, we tune in to the mind behind the behavior.

La mente en desarrollo: cómo interactúan las relaciones y el cerebro para modelar nuestro ser.

cuando un niño está alterado, la lógica no suele surtir efecto hasta que hayamos respondido a las necesidades emocionales del cerebro derecho.