Quotes About Growth

We are always in a perpetual state of being created and creating ourselves. (p. 221)

Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them become what they are capable of being.

Where attention goes, neural firing flows, and neural connection grows.

As parents become more aware and emotionally healthy, their children reap the rewards and move toward health as well. That means that integrating and cultivating your own brain is one of the most loving and generous gifts you can give your children. Another

Adolescents who are absorbing negative messages about who they are and what is expected of them may sink to that level instead of realizing their true potential. As Johann Wolfgang von Goethe wrote, "Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them become what they are capable of being.

one of the surprises that has shaken the very foundations of neuroscience is the discovery that the brain is actually "plastic," or moldable. This means that the brain physically changes throughout the course of our lives, not just in childhood, as we had previously assumed. What molds our brain? Experience. Even into old age, our experiences actually change the physical structure of the brain.

As children develop, their brains "mirror" their parent's brain. In other words, the parent's own growth and development, or lack of those, impact the child's brain. As parents become more aware and emotionally healthy, their children reap the rewards and move toward health as well. That means that integrating and cultivating your own brain is one of the most loving and generous gifts you can give your children.

Curiosity is the cornerstone of effective discipline.

What do you really want for your children? What qualities do you hope they develop and take into their adult lives?

As scientists put it, the brain is plastic, or moldable. Yes, the actual physical architecture of the brain changes based on what happens to us.

When neurons fire together, they grow new connections between them. Over time, the connections that result from firing lead to "rewiring" in the brain. This

Rather than trying to shelter our children from life's inevitable difficulties, we can help them integrate those experiences into their understanding of the world and learn from them. How our kids make sense of their young lives is not only about what happens to them but also about how their parents, teachers, and other caregivers respond.

Trying to change how we actually feel by ordering ourselves to do so is a strategy that goes nowhere, fast.

Reduce words Embrace emotions Describe, don't preach Involve your child in the discipline Reframe a no into a conditional yes Emphasize the positive Creatively approach the situation Teach mindsight tools

the changes during adolescence are not something to just get through; they are qualities we actually need to hold on to in order to live a full and meaningful life in adulthood.

Serenity, courage, and wisdom are at the heart of temporal integration.

As Johann Wolfgang von Goethe wrote, "Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them become what they are capable of being.

Your job as a parent is not to prevent them from experiencing setbacks and failures, but to give them the tools and emotional resilience they need to weather life's storms, and then to walk beside them through those storms.

experiences actually change the physical structure of the brain.

The healthy move to adulthood is toward interdependence, not complete "do-it-yourself" isolation.

avoid solving and resist rescuing, even when they make minor mistakes or not-so-great choices.

How we treat our children changes who they are and how they will develop. Their brains need our parental involvement. Nature needs nurture.

When your child is disrespectful and talks back to you, when you are asked to come in for a meeting with the principal, when you find crayon scribbles all over your wall: these are survive moments, no question about it. But at the same time, they are opportunities—even gifts—because a survive moment is also a thrive moment, where the important, meaningful work of parenting takes place.

while the downstairs brain is well developed even at birth, the upstairs brain isn't fully mature until a person reaches his mid-twenties.