Quotes About Growth

You get through your pain by accepting it and figuring out what to do with it. You can't change what you're denying or minimizing.

It's one thing to talk about leaving behind a restrictive mindset. It's another to stop being so restrictive.

quote from Einstein: "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.

Sometimes we imprison ourselves with a narrative of self-punishment. If

early experiences inform who they are as adults so that they can separate the past from the present

We can't have change without loss, which is why so often people say they want change but nonetheless stay exactly the same. To

One of the most important steps in therapy is helping people take responsibility for their current predicaments,

As a therapist, I know a lot about pain, about the ways in which pain is tied to loss. But I also know something less commonly understood: that change and loss travel together. We can't have change without loss, which is why so often people say they want change but nonetheless stay exactly the same.

Don't look at all five feet at once. Just take a step. And when you've taken that step, take one more.

this midlife crisis may be more about opening up than shutting down, an expansion rather than a constriction, a rebirth rather than a death.

One of the most important steps in therapy is helping other people take responsibility for their current predicaments, because once they realize that they can (and must) construct their own lives, they're free to generate change.

In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

You can't get through your pain by diminishing it,

But I assure him that he's not breaking down; he's breaking open.

once they realize that they can (and must) construct their own lives, they're free to generate change.

There is a continuing decision to be made as to whether to evade pain, or to tolerate it and therefore modify

I particularly liked this quote from Frankl's book: "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

Não podemos ter mudança sem perda, motivo pelo qual é tão frequente as pessoas dizerem que querem mudar, mas mesmo assim continuarem exatamente iguais.

thought about how regret can go one of two ways: it can either shackle you to the past or serve as an engine for change.

Most big transformations come about from the hundreds of tiny, almost imperceptible, steps we take along the way. A lot

It's not that people want to get hurt again. It's that they want to master a situation in which they felt helpless as children. Freud called this "repetition compulsion." Maybe this time, the unconscious imagines, I can go back and heal that wound from long ago by engaging with somebody familiar—but new. The only problem is, by choosing familiar partners, people guarantee the opposite result: they reopen the wounds and feel even more inadequate and unlovable.

What makes therapy challenging is that it requires people to see themselves in ways they normally choose not to. A therapist will hold up the mirror in the most compassionate way possible, but it's up to the patient to take a good look at that reflection

the most powerful truths—the ones people take the most seriously—are those they come to, little by little, on their own.

Sometimes the changes you want in another person aren't on that person's agenda—even if he tells you they are.