Quotes About Conflict

Arguing Without Understanding Is Unpersuasive

There's nothing wrong with having these rules. In fact, we need them to order our lives. But when you find yourself in conflict, it helps to make your rules explicit and to encourage the other person to do the same.

Generally the best way to manage conflict in a way that safeguards a relationship is to look for standards or fair principles to guide a resolution, rather than trying to haggle with or intimidate the other person.

The Principle of Mutual Caretaking. One dynamic to remember at this stage of a difficult conversation is the tendency we all have to believe that our way of doing things is the "right" way. This can lead us to ascribe the problem to something wrong with "the way they are," and to suggest a "solution" that boils down to doing it our way: "If you would just change, there wouldn't be a problem.

You can begin from the Third Story by saying, "My sense is that you and I see this situation differently. I'd like to share how I'm seeing it, and learn more about how you're seeing it.

What you want the other person to say isn't "It was my fault," but rather "I understand that I hurt you and I'm sorry." The first statement is about judgment, the second about understanding.

We live in a world of guided missiles and misguided men.

Yeah, how dare they try to kill you in the middle of a war? Don't they know you're busy trying to kill them? How rude!

When you finally betray me, I hope you care enough to try to kill me yourself.

The dark side is insidious. Hate will transform you into the very evil that you are fighting so hard against. - Satele Shan

A warrior who doesn't hope for battle has no hope during battle. – Canderous Ordo

Great Hyperspace War

Just as "good fences make good neighbors," clear delineations of responsibility can prevent the kind of turf battles that break down staff relationships.

I think that people want peace so much that one of these days government had better get out of the way and let them have it.

The problem is not merely man against man or nation against nation. It is man against war.

Those who take the extreme positions in American political and economic life are always wrong.

Wars are stupid and they can start stupidly.

War is mankind's most tragic and stupid folly; to seek or advise its deliberate provocation is a black crime against all men.

Every gun that is made, every warship launched, every rocket fired, signifies in a final sense a theft from those who hunger and are not fed — those who are cold and not clothed. This world in arms is not spending its money alone — it is spending the sweat of its laborers, the genius of its scientists, the hopes of its children.

Every gun that is made, every warship launched, every rocket fired, signifies, in the final sense, a theft from those who hunger and are not fed, those who are cold and are not clothed.

So the world is again faced with the problem of armed aggression. Powerful dictatorships are attacking an exposed, but free, area. What should we do? Shall we take the position that, submitting to threat, it is better to surrender pieces of free territory in the hope that this will satisfy the appetite of the aggressor and we shall have peace?

I voiced to him my grave misgivings, first on the basis of my belief that Japan was already defeated and that dropping the bomb was completely unnecessary, and secondly because I thought that our country should avoid shocking world opinion by the use of a weapon whose employment was, I thought, no longer mandatory as a measure to save American lives.

Moreover, Middle East oil was a great prize.

I hold a beast, an angel, and a madman in me, and my enquiry is as to their working, and my problem is their subjugation and victory, down throw and upheaval, and my effort is their self-expression.