Quotes About Shame

Many of us start out paralyzed by shame and embarrassment, even after we figure out that we don't want to be embarrassed by sex. The beliefs we were taught—that our bodies, our desires, and sex are dirty and wrong—make it very hard to develop healthy sexual self-esteem.

We dream of a world where no one is driven by desires they have no hope of fulfilling, where no one suffers from shame for their desires or embarrassment about their dreams, where no one is starving from lack of love or sex. We dream of a world where no one is limited by rules that dictate that they must be less of a person than they have the capacity to be.

In his lectures to young communists in Germany during the rise of Hitler and the Nazis, psychologist Wilhelm Reich theorized that the suppression of sexuality was essential to an authoritarian government. Without the imposition of antisexual morality, he believed, people would be free from shame and would trust their own sense of right and wrong. They would be unlikely to march to war against their wishes or to operate death camps.

But believing that God doesn't like sex is like believing that God doesn't like you. Because of this belief, a tremendous number of people carry great shame for their own perfectly natural sexual desires and activities.

Here are words to live by: the enemy of shame is curiosity

Forbidden emotions sent to the deep freeze commonly include pathos, anger, shame, terror, villainy and victimhood. Starting to sound familiar? So our thesis is that it just might be that our kinky desires, the drives that lead us to enact our dark and dangerous fairy tales, may very well be the longing to reunite with a part of ourselves that we have lost in the Shadow.

For these reasons, and because we know that wanting to hurt, control or humiliate people is not OK, we may feel very ashamed or embarrassed about our fantasies. But once we overcome that embarrassment, and discover how many other people have similar feelings, our fantasy world becomes a hot and happy playground.

For Nietzsche, one of the dangers of the men of ressentiment is that they will achieve their ultimate form of revenge, which is to turn happy people into unhappy people like themselves—to shove their misery into the faces of the happy so that in due course the happy "start to be ashamed of their happiness and perhaps say to one another: 'It's a disgrace to be happy!

As one of the consequences of the death of God, Friedrich Nietzsche foresaw that people could find themselves stuck in cycles of Christian theology with no way out. Specifically that people would inherit the concepts of guilt, sin and shame but would be without the means of redemption which the Christian religion also offered.

America, as in Australia, such a constant drumbeat of guilt changes a people's natural feelings about their own past. It transforms feelings of patriotism into shame or at the very least into deeply mixed emotions, and troubling effects result from this. A country that believes it has never done any wrong is a country that could do wrong at any time.

The urge to blame is based . . . on the fear of being blamed.

When you keep your sexual conversations, behaviors, pornography, or masturbation a secret, you are

Its a shame, she had me convinced that she couldve been a dime. I guess I lost another one to the wintertime.

It is better to die than to preserve this life by incurring disgrace. The loss of life causes but a moment's grief, but disgrace brings grief every day of one's life.

God may reduce you on Judgment Day to tears of shame, reciting by heart the poems you would have written, had your life been good.

I've spent my life being embarrassed.

Nothing spells shame like living what feels like a double life.

Life is a series of embarrassing moments which leave you feeling alone in your confusion and shame

I always felt guilty. My whole life.

What is left when honor is lost?

Never have I risked my life, or even my comfort, in the service of mankind. Shame on me.

We have been called naive as if it were a dirty word We have been called innocent as though with shame our cheeks should burn So We visited with the careful idols of cynicism to learn to sneer and pant and walk so as not to feel the scales of judgment rub wrongly But we say, some things must remain simple some things must remain untouched and pure

The omitting the Word will be regarded as an Endeavour to conceal a principle of which we are ashamed.

In the primitive simplicity of their minds they are more easily victimized by a large than by a small lie, since they sometimes tell petty lies themselves but would be ashamed to tell big ones.