Quotes About Codependency

A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.

If you love the unlovable, let another person's desires take precedence over your own, or even worse, love someone who has hurt you, then you are likely love addicted, codependent, and emotionally unhealthy.

The reason 12-step programs can be so helpful is that, very often, empaths become addicted to their vampire partners.

I was so completely dependent on him, you see, and that was not a healthy thing.

I have discovered that we, codependents, are very hard to treat. I resisted doing anything people suggested that might have gotten me into recovery sooner. It wasn`t until I experienced enough pain to become willing to do anything to change that I would try their suggestions.

Codependents don`t just wake up one day saying I think I'll move over into maturity and mental health

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Codependency is a condition wherein one has no inner life. Happiness is on the outside.

Victory in codependency/recovery thus sounds like this: 'As I changed, all hell broke loose in my marriage . . . My husband and I began to fight a lot. My changes threatened him. I kept getting better, but the healthier I got, the worse it got at home. . . . I consider filing for divorce a real triumph in my recovery.

Codependent writers attempt to help people shift their focus and effort from other people to self. This merely exchanges one form of idolatry for another because whoever or whatever is the unbiblical focus of one's life is that person's idol.

Whether the codependency/recovery people know it or not, parent bashing is a direct result of Freudian psychology.

A major problem with many codependency/recovery books is the belief that going back to childhood to find the why's of present feelings and behavior and even to find where patterns developed will bring relief and transformation.

Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains, lives, and behaviors of others. They react to their own problems, pains, and behaviors.

Codependents make great employees. They don't complain; they do more than their share; they do whatever is asked of them; they please people; and they try to do their work perfectly—at least for a while, until they become angry and resentful.

Children raised by the Double-Minded parent will often grow up having codependent tendencies, seeking acceptance from others, being unrealistic in their view of "self," and feeling insecure. They are confused about what it means to follow Christ, and might avoid their parents in adulthood.

Despising each other as we did, we were constantly together, thereby degrading ourselves

Just as coaddicts sometimes make addicts into "parents," coaddicts will treat addicts as "another child in the family.

Codependent behaviors are often seen in women, who are socialized to take on the ultra-nurturer role, or dismiss their own needs in favor of serving the needs of others.

don't know how she made her money. I didn't help her out, I can tell you that. I knew she'd drink whatever I gave her, or whatever else she was snorting or shooting. I stopped asking.

Emotional incest is yet another form of emotional abuse. Emotional incest commonly involves the reversal of the parent/child roles. When this occurs, the mother or father "parentifies" the child who is then manipulated to gratify the unmet childhood needs of the parent. This typically manifests as the parent pumping the child for the unconditional love that she should herself be giving.