Quotes About Empathy

Don't get drawn into the other person's extreme reactions; trust your instincts and form your own judgments.

Elan Golomb (1992) says: To grow up as a whole person, children in their formative stages need the experience of genuine acceptance; they have to know they are truly seen and yet are perfect in their parent's eyes; they need to stumble and sometimes fall, only to be greeted by a parent's commiserating smile. Through parental acceptance, children learn that their "is-ness," their essential selves, merit love.

Allow people to be who they are instead of what you want them to be. Send healthy support messages like, "I'm here if you need me, but your choices—and the consequences—belong to you.

When we're lonely, most of us can soothe ourselves by remembering the love that others have for us. This can be very comforting, even if these people are far away—sometimes even if they're no longer living. This ability to hold others close, even in their physical absence, is called object constancy.

listening gives you the opportunity to learn.

When you or your loved one have an intense reaction to something, chances are good that one of your triggers or "hot buttons" has been pushed.

Generally, "I" statements make people less defensive and more open to exploring a solution to the problem.

Reflective listening is another helpful style of communicating where you give the speaker your impression of what he or she is feeling to show you are listening and that you care.

Remember, to someone with BPD, making a mistake means being a mistake.)

Realizing you can't control what people choose to think: You can't make everyone happy—least of all someone who is projecting their own unhappiness onto you. Stop taking responsibility for your loved one's inner world and start taking responsibility for your own.

persisting for change, and the DEAR (Describe, Express, Assert, and Reinforce) technique.

Linehan echoes this belief, often saying that people with BPD are like people with third-degree burns over 90 percent of their body. Lacking emotional skin, they feel agony at the slightest touch or movement.

Heldmann suggests paraphrasing, or repeating, the key points of the speaker's statements to show that you want to understand what the person is saying. Develop your own style of doing this so it comes across naturally.

The measure of civilized behavior is compassion.

34You shall treat the alien who resides with you no differently than the natives born among you; you shall love the alien as yourself; for you too were once aliens in the land of Egypt. I, the LORD, am your God.

If we are able to enter the church day and night and implore God to hear our prayers, how careful we should be to hear and grant the petitions of our neighbor in need. — St. John the Almoner

Love that cares, listens.

There is no love which does not become help.

No self-acceptance is possible if one is not accepted in a person-to-person relation.

The gratitude of those who receive help is first and always gratitude for love and only afterwards gratitude for help.

Tugas pertama mencintai adalah mendengar.

But if it is life alone that dies, love is born, which is the innermost part of the spirit. It is the most mature and most precious fruit of the life that sacrifices itself. Love breaks out of the prison of individualism and nationalist stupidity. Love goes to another person, even one with a different language or of a different race, and returns from him richer.

The first duty of love is to listen.

It is quite clear that between love and understanding there is a very close link...He who loves understands, and he who understands loves. One who feels understood feels loved, and one who feels loved feels sure of being understood.