Quotes About Empathy

Even if we do our best to safely and effectively respond to the other person's verbal attack, we still have to face up to the fact that it's going to take a little while for him or her to settle down.

we do know one thing for certain: Skilled people Start with Heart. That is, they begin high-risk discussions with the right motives, and they stay focused no matter what happens.

Lord, help me forgive those who sin differently than I." When we recognize that we all have weaknesses, it's easier to find a way to respect others.

Skilled people Start with Heart. That is, they begin high-risk discussions with the right motives, and they stay focused no matter what happens.

When others move to silence or violence, step out of the conversation and Make it Safe. When safety is restored, go back to the issue at hand and continue the dialogue.

Provide individuals who have been disappointed or poorly treated with something to say and a way to say it that leads to the result they want, and their mental math changes.

Lord, help me forgive those who sin differently than I.

When under attack, our heart can take a similarly sudden and unconscious turn. When faced with pressure and strong opinions, we often stop worrying about the goal of adding to the pool of meaning and start looking for ways to win, punish, or keep the peace.

In truth, everyone argues about important issues. But not everyone splits up. It's how you argue that matters.

So be patient when exploring how others think and feel. Encourage them to share their path and then wait for their emotions to catch up with the safety that you've created.

People who are gifted at dialogue keep a constant vigil on safety. They pay attention to the content—that's a given—and they watch for signs that people are becoming fearful.

We're asking you to recode silence and violence as signs that people are feeling unsafe. We're asking you to fight your natural tendency to respond in kind. We're asking you to undo years of practice, maybe even eons of genetic shaping that prod you to take flight or pick a fight (when under attack), and recode the stimulus. "Ah, that's a sign that the other person feels unsafe." And then what? Do something to make it safe.

It's important to understand that Contrasting is not apologizing. It is not a way of taking back something we've said that hurt others' feelings. Rather, it is a way of ensuring that what we said didn't hurt more than it should have.

One of the ironies of dialogue is that, when talking with those holding opposing opinions, the more convinced and forceful you act, the more resistant others become.

She had always been a person of ticklish sensibilities, easily overcome by the ordinary frictions of life.

He had seen photographs of people whose tragedies had turned their faces to transparent glass, had even taken a few: survivors of house fires and hunting accidents whose grief was distinguished by a wide-open compassion that extended outward in every direction.

when you truly love someone, you will be there every second they need you to! no matter what they are doing or what they want to be doing

As ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them. Let the fruits of the spirit be manifested in thy life day by day. Be not afraid to just be kind, just be patient, just be longsuffering even with those that would speak ill of thee. For what glory hast thou if thou dost good only to those that do good to thee? 835-1

Administering to others is the best way to help self. More individuals become so anxious about their own troubles, and yet helping others is the best way to rid yourself of your own troubles . . . Then what are you grumbling about because you dislike your mother? She dislikes you as much, but change this into love. Be kind, be gentle, be patient, be longsuffering, for if thy God was not longsuffering with thee, what chance would you have? 5081-1

We touch people with our minds, with our words, and with our bodies. I have always sensed that we are at all times healers or destroyers. There is no middle ground. (A.R.E.

He didn't know how to deal with people who were falling apart, how to comfort them. He wasn't sure if he'd just forgotten how to be with people at all.

He hadn't judged her, though, nor had he condemned her. He'd simply seen the point she'd reached, beyond ever redeeming herself. Maybe

Maybe raising children was just giving them the things you loved most in the world and hoping that they loved them too.

Honestly, Bessie? People don't care about anyone but themselves. They don't notice anything. They are never looking at what's interesting. They're always looking at themselves.