Quotes from Dossie Easton

After duly binding, stripping, beating, torturing and fucking Dossie, Janet held her and brought her nicely back down to earth. Then we went upstairs for something to eat.

One of the things we like about what transgender and nonbinary people bring into our play parties is the constant experience of posing exceptions to all those pesky rules about gender and presenting interesting examples of how we all can be free to be exactly who we want to be. Everyone of every gender and every orientation has a right to feel safe and free to enjoy sex.

What would it be like to love without attachment, to open our hearts to someone with no expectations, loving just for the joy of it, regardless of what we might get back?

Another good form of consistency is to be honest with yourself and with your children—when you live your life in integrity, everyone can count on you to be exactly who you, wonderfully, are.

Clean love is love without expectations.

One of the great joys of living as a slut is the opportunity to make intimate connections with people whose background is unlike your own. When you do that, you will find yourself tripping, with some embarrassment, over a lot of differences. This process can feel awkward, but every time it happens, you've learned something new about how people go about being human—perhaps just the thing that was lacking in your own culture.

We define consent as an active collaboration for the pleasure and well-being of all concerned.

A large part of our difficulties with jealousy comes from our attempts to avoid feeling a scary or painful emotion.

We can take some thoughts from Buddhism: What would it be like to love without attachment, to open our hearts to someone with no expectations, loving just for the joy of it, regardless of what we might get back?

Let us point out that monogamy is not a cure for jealousy.

Most of us resent it when another person tells us how we feel—whether or not they are correct, it is a violation of our boundaries when another person presumes to tell us what our inner truth is. Try asking a respectful question. "How are you feeling right now? I'm wondering if you're sad.

Despite what you might have learned from the TV or the tabloids, sex workers really are not all desperate drug addicts, debased victims, or predatory gold diggers. Many healthy and happy people work in the sex industry, doing essential and positive work healing the wounds inflicted by our sex-negative culture. We know them as friends, lovers, colleagues, writers, therapists, and educators, as

We are now hearing people refer to certain of their lovers as "friends with benefits," an interesting concept. Why shouldn't we share the manifold benefits of sex with our friends, making sex a natural part of the love and honor and loyalty and openheartedness that we already share?

We can't ask our lovers to hold still while we sling accusations at them, using them as a target for our frustrations; that would be asking them to consent to being abused, and they would be right to resist. But we can ask them to listen to how we feel, because putting aside their own agendas for a few minutes and listening to our feelings is a doable task.

Another of the great virtues of curiosity is that, in sexual exploration, we can become those children we once were, delightedly exploring how this feels, how that feels, giggling and writhing, asking how does my body work, how does your body work? We can unbridle our curiosity. Get silly with it. Play.

When problems arise, a good question to ask yourself is "What am I hoping to get out of this situation?

The real test of love is when a person—including you—can know your weaknesses, your stupidities and your smallnesses, and still love you.

One remedy for the fear of not being loved is to remember how good it feels to love someone. If you're feeling unloved and you want to feel better, go love someone, and see what happens.

the most successful long-term relationships are the ones with enough flexibility to redefine themselves over and over again through the years.

A lot of people describe having sex with only one person as 'being faithful'. It seems to me that faithfulness has very little to do with who you have sex with. Faithfulness is about honoring your commitments and respecting your friends and lovers, about caring for their well-being as well as your own.

The cultural ban on having sex with your friends is an inevitable offshoot of a societal belief that the only acceptable reason to have sex is to lead to a monogamous marriagelike relationship.

It felt so wonderful that she concluded that the existence of her clitoris was proof positive that God loved her.

GREAT SLUTS are made, not born.

One of the most valuable things we can learn from open sexual lifestyles is that our programming is changeable.