Quotes from Daniel Goleman

There can be a downside to the achievement drive: some people become workaholics, completely focused on their work goals and neglecting to live a full life. You can see this in students who are "grinds," driven to get the highest grades at the sacrifice of everything else in their lives, just as you see it in those successful executives who work 18-hour days all through the week – and in anyone who has perfectionistic standards.

A leader tuned out of his internal world will be rudderless; one blind to the world of others will be clueless; those indifferent to the larger systems within which they operate will be blindsided.

Anyone can become angry—that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way—that is not easy.

The subcortical circuits that know such gut truths before we have words for them include the amygdala and the insula. A scholarly review of gut intuitions concludes that using feelings as information is a "generally sensible judgmental strategy," rather than a perennial source of error, as the hyperrational might argue.1 Tuning in to our feelings as a source of information taps into a vast amount of decision rules that the mind gathers unconsciously.

La mente del lector suele divagar entre el 20 y 40% del tiempo que dedica a la lectura.

apunta: «Los ataques al carácter de alguien (llamarlo estúpido o incompetente) no sirven para nada. El otro se pone de inmediato a la defensiva y deja de ser receptivo a las recomendaciones que tenemos que hacerle para que mejore.»

The very fact that about half of our thoughts are daydreams suggests there may well be some advantages to a mind that can entertain the fanciful.

For murder victims under twelve, says a report, 57 percent of the murderers are

humans the prefrontal cortex takes up a larger ratio of the brain's top layer, the neocortex, than in any other species, and has been the site of the major evolutionary changes that make us human. This neural zone, as we will see, holds the seeds of awakening to enduring well-being, but it is also entwined with emotional suffering. We can envision wonderful possibilities, and we also can be disturbed by worrisome

la inteligencia emocional destaca especialmente sobre el CI en aquellos dominios "blandos" en los que la relevancia del intelecto para el éxito es relativamente menor, es decir, en aquellos dominios en los que habilidades tales como la autorregulación emocional y la empatía, por ejemplo, son más decisivas que las competencias estrictamente cognitivas.

The biological influence passing from person to person suggests a new dimension of a life well lived: conducting ourselves in ways that are beneficial even at this subtle level for those with whom we connect.

Una persona muy autoconsciente sabe adónde se dirige y por qué; así, por ejemplo, se mostrará firme al rechazar una oferta laboral que resulte tentadora desde un punto de vista económico pero no encaje con sus principios u objetivos a largo plazo.

la gente que prospera en la vida (que tiene relaciones positivas y un trabajo gratificante, que considera que su existencia tiene sentido) experimenta al menos tres acontecimientos emocionales positivos por cada uno negativo.

anxiety's damaging effect on mental performance of all kind. Worry, of course, is in one sense a useful response gone awry—an overly zealous mental preparation for an anticipated threat. But such mental rehearsal is disastrous cognitive static when it becomes trapped in a stale routine that captures attention

Research by Harvard's Howard Gardner, Stanford's William Damon, and Claremont's Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi zeroed in on what they call "good work," a potent mix of what people are excellent at, what engages them, and their ethics—what they believe matters.18 Those are more likely to be high-absorption callings: people love what they are doing. Full absorption in what we do feels good, and pleasure is the emotional marker for flow.

el estrés atonta a la gente».

But the brain's executive center, located behind the forehead in our prefrontal cortex, gives us both a unique advantage among all animals and a paradoxical disadvantage: the ability to anticipate the future—and worry about it—as well as to think about the past—and regret.

Benjamin Franklin put it well: Anger is never without a reason, but seldom a good one.

El bombardeo continuo de correos electrónicos, escritos y facturas –la "catástrofe completa" de la vida– nos arroja a un estado cerebral antitético

Todo lo que usted debe saber es si seguirá adelante cuando las cosas resulten frustrantes. Yo creo que, dado un determinado nivel de inteligencia, el logro real no depende tanto del talento como de la capacidad de seguir adelante a pesar de los fracasos».

First, emotional intelligence

Don't underestimate the value of practicing the guitar or keeping that promise to feed the guinea pig and clean its cage.

Primal empathy: Feeling with others; sensing nonverbal emotional signals. Attunement: Listening with full receptivity; attuning to a person. Empathic accuracy: Understanding another person's thoughts, feelings, and intentions. Social cognition: Knowing how the social world works. Social Facility

Todos somos más inteligentes que cualquiera de nosotros aisladamente considerado».