Quotes from Melody Beattie

Some therapists have proclaimed: 'Co-dependency is anything, and everyone is co-dependent.'

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.

Gratitude turns what we have into enough.

Gratitude can turn a meal into a feast.

Whatever we try to control does have control over us and our life.

In martial arts, every time you graduate, move to another level, you don't forget everything you've done. You build on it, but it's always there.

I want people who have received a diagnosis of Hepatitis C to know that they didn't just receive a death sentence. They do have options, even if the person who gave them their diagnosis isn't aware of all of them. The path they choose doesn't have to be one of desperation.

Waiting time is not wasted time. Something is being worked out - in us, in someone else, in the Universe.

Love yourself just as you are.

Relationships are where we take our recovery on the road.

Feel what you feel, know what you know, and set your relatives free to do the same.

The more we learn to love and respect ourselves, the more we will become attracted to people who will love and respect us and who we can safely love and respect.

Embrace and love all of yourself - past, present, and future. Forgive yourself quickly and as often as necessary. Encourage yourself. Tell yourself good things about yourself.

There are almost as many definitions of co-dependency as there are experiences that represent it.

Guilt can prevent us from setting the boundaries that would be in our best interests, and in other people's best interests.

Be patient. Relax and trust. Let go. Then, let go some more.

Love means each person is free to follow his or her own heart.

Nurtured, nourished people, who love themselves and care for themselves, are the delight of the Universe.

Who you are is love. What love does is heal.

A man went to Istanbul, his first visit there. On his way to a business meeting, this man lost his way. He began raging at himself for getting lost, until a realization allowed him to transcend his ire. How can I be lost? I've never been here before? pp 104-105

I pray for faith that my future will be good if I live today well, and in peace. I will remember that staying in the present is the best thing I can do for my future. I will focus on what's happening now instead of what's going to happen tomorrow.

I saw people who were hostile; they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again.

Taking care of myself is a big job. No wonder I avoided it for so long. —ANONYMOUS

Detaching does not mean we don't care. It means we learn to love, care, and be involved without going crazy.