Quotes About Self-worth

No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It's going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn't change the truth that I am brave and worthy of love and belonging.

Who we are matters immeasurably more than what we know or who we want to be.

we just can't fill a self-worth gap by leading and using power over people,

the people who love me, the people I really depend on, were never the critics who were pointing at me while I stumbled. They weren't in the bleachers at all. They were with me in the arena. Fighting for me and with me. . . . it's a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands. The people who love me and will be there regardless of the outcome are within arm's reach.

the difference between shame and guilt is best understood as the differences between "I am bad" and "I did something bad." Guilt = I did something bad. Shame = I am bad. Shame is about who we are, and guilt is about our behaviors.

Shame: Is fear of ridicule and belittling used to manage people and/or to keep people in line? Is self-worth tied to achievement, productivity, or compliance? Are blaming and finger-pointing norms? Are put-downs and name-calling rampant? What about favoritism? Is perfectionism an issue?

Although we're told (and want to believe), "You are not your job," the messages from employers, colleagues and the media counter that well-intentioned adage with "You are exactly what you do, how well you do it and what you earn.

Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it's a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands. The people who love me and will be there regardless of the outcome are within arm's reach.

We're sick of being afraid and we're tired of hustling for our self-worth.

comparing ourselves to others leads us to fear, anger, shame, and sadness.

define narcissism as the shame-based fear of being ordinary.

Power with is "based on mutual support, solidarity, collaboration and recognition and respect for differences." Power to is "based on the belief that each individual has the power to make a difference." Power within is defined by an ability to recognize differences and respect others, grounded in a strong foundation of self-worth and self-knowledge.

If I have to ask, it's not worth it." She tilted her head and said, "If you're not asking for what's important to you, maybe it's because you don't think you are worth it.

When we allow ourselves to become culturally conditioned to believe that we are not enough and that we don't make enough or have enough, it damages our soul. This is why I think practicing critical awareness and reality-checking is as much about spirituality as it is about critical thinking.

Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it's often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life-paralysis.

We're afraid that our truth isn't enough—that what we have to offer isn't enough without the bells and whistles, without editing, and impressing

Sacrificing who we are for the sake of what other people think just isn't worth it.

Don't grab hurtful comments and pull them close to you by rereading them and ruminating on them. Don't play with them by rehearsing your badass comeback. And whatever you do, don't pull hatefulness close to your heart.

the question that we must ultimately answer is this: What's the greater risk? Letting go of what people think or letting go of how I feel, what I believe, and who I am?

In today's culture—where our self-worth is tied to our net worth, and we base our worthiness on our level of productivity—spending time doing purposeless activities is rare. In fact, for many of us it sounds like an anxiety attack waiting to happen. We

Yes, we all struggle with shame and the fear of not being enough.

We hustle for our worthiness by slipping on the emotional and behavioral straitjacket of cool and posturing as the tragically hip and the terminally "better than." Being "in control" isn't always about the desire to manipulate situations, but often it's about the need to manage perception. We want to be able to control what other people think about us so that we can feel good enough.

schadenfreude is also born out of fear, powerlessness, and/or a sense of deservedness.

Remember too that sometimes we overlook our own strengths because we take them for granted and forget that they're special.