Quotes About Self-worth

The secret killer of innovation is shame.

I define narcissism as the shame-based fear of being ordinary.

We get stuck and defined by setbacks, disappointments, and failures, so instead of spending resources on clean-up to ensure that consumers, stakeholders, or internal processes are made whole, we are spending too much time and energy reassuring team members who are questioning their contribution and value.

Letting go of comparison is not a to-do list item. For most of us, it's something that requires constant awareness. It's so easy to take our eyes off our path to check out what others are doing and if they're ahead or behind us. Creativity, which is the expression of our originality, helps us stay mindful that what we bring to the world is completely original and cannot be compared. And, without comparison, concepts like ahead or behind or best or worst lose their meaning.

I also struggle with the fear that if I say no everyone is going to stop asking.

Shame is a focus on guilt, guilt is a focus on behavior. Shame is 'I am bad'. Guilt is 'I did something bad'.

Sufficiency isn't an amount at all. It is an experience, a context we generate, a declaration, a knowing that there is enough, and that we are enough.

I now recognize that people learn how to treat us based on how they see us treating ourselves. If I don't put value on my work or my time, neither will the person I am helping. Boundaries are a function of self-respect and self-love.

Where perfectionism exists, shame is always lurking. In fact, shame is the birthplace of perfectionism.

What's the greater risk? Letting go of what people think or letting go of how I feel, what I believe, and who I am? Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness.

The delta between I am a screwup and I screwed up may look small, but in fact it's huge.

childhood experiences of shame change who we are, how we think about ourselves, and our sense of self-worth.

Não importa o que eu faça e quanto ainda fique por fazer, eu sou bom o bastante. Significa deitar todas as noites pensando: Sim, sou imperfeito e vulnerável, às vezes fico com medo, mas isso não muda o fato de que sou corajoso e digno de amor e de aceitação. Os dois primeiros livros são como um "chamado

tired of hustling for our self-worth.

Think how powerful it might have been for Elizabeth to hear, "You had such courage to apply for that promotion and even more courage to be honest about how much you wanted it. I'm so proud to be your daughter/son/mentor/friend/parent.

Now I understand the quote from Theodore Roosevelt: "Comparison is the thief of joy.

The majority of shame researchers and clinicians agree that the difference between shame and guilt is best understood as the difference between "I am bad" and "I did something bad." Guilt = I did something bad. Shame = I am bad.

If what matters to us is what we're concerned about, then play and rest is important. If what matters to us is what other people think or say or value, then it's back to exhaustion and producing for self-worth. Today, I choose play and rest.

Courage sounds great , but we need to talk about how it requires us to let go of what other people think

perfectionism is not teaching them how to strive for excellence or be their best selves. Perfectionism is teaching them to value what other people think over what they think or how they feel. It's teaching them to perform, please, and prove.

Putting people on the "loser board" doesn't work. Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change. Goal-setting:

am enough (worthiness versus shame). I've had enough (boundaries versus one-uping and comparison). Showing up, taking risks, and letting myself be seen is enough (engagement versus disengagement).

Children experience shame as the threat of being unlovable.

With that sense of "enough" comes an embrace of worthiness, boundaries, and engagement.