Quotes About Insecurity

There was always an excuse for why Kaladin needed the spear again, wasn't there? This was what he'd been afraid of. This was what made him tremble. The worry that he would never be able to put it down.

On an individual basis, in most interactions, this thing we call power—authority—exists only as it is perceived.

How can someone be abstractly defenseless?

He was afraid of stepping up, of becoming everything he could be—not because the powers themselves frightened him. But because if he tried, then the failure was far, far worse. At

Tress thought maybe he was like her Aunt Glorf, who had always fought for the best deals at the market. She'd been afraid of looking silly by being taken advantage of. The guess was as wrong as ending a sentence with a preposition. But it worked anyway. Like ending a sentence with a preposition.

When I'm at my worst, I feel like I can't change. Like I've never changed. That I've always felt this way, and always will.

Why do they treat us so, Moash? Because they know they should be better than they are. Because they see discipline in bridgemen, and it embarrasses them. Rather than bettering themselves, they take the easier road of jeering at us.

No teenage girl is stable. Some are just better at hiding it than others.

Yes, he was the one who fueled the rumors after that. I could never have done what he himself did, convincing and persuading the world that he was indeed the Hero. I don't know if he himself believed it, but he made others think that he must be the one.

Need. That word had strange effects on men. Some ran when you used it. Others grew nervous.

Yeah but I don't know how to make myself go there. Maybe it might never happen again. AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH!

When they teach [doctors] how to suture, they also teach them how to stitch their self-worth to being all-powerful.

Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.

Choosing to be curious is choosing to be vulnerable because it requires us to surrender to uncertainty.

Stop scouring people's faces for evidence that you're not enough. You will always find it because you've made that your goal. True belonging and self-worth are not goods; we don't negotiate their value with the world. The truth about who we are lives in our hearts.

Comparison is the crush of conformity from one side and competition from the other—it's trying to simultaneously fit in and stand out. Comparison says, "Be like everyone else, but better.

Nothing silences us more effectively than shame.

Perfectionism is not a way to avoid shame. Perfectionism is a form of shame.

The Ham-Foldover Debacle:.....you make yourself the center of something that has nothing to do with you, out of your own fear or scarcity, only to be reminded that you're not the axis over which the world turns

Until we teach our children that they need to be concerned with how they look and with what other people think, they dance.

Conspiracy thinking is all about fear-based self-protection and our intolerance for uncertainty.

One woman said, "Shame is hating yourself and understanding why other people hate you too.

Vulnerability is like being naked onstage and hoping for applause rather than laughter.

We judge in areas where we're most susceptible to shame, and we judge people who are doing worse than we are in those areas.