Quotes About Insecurity

is negatively correlated with self-esteem and positively correlated with narcissism and shame-proneness.

Love and belonging will always be uncertain.

rather than respecting a strong internal instinct, we become fearful and look for assurances from others.

Far from being an effective shield, the illusion of invulnerability undermines the very response that would have supplied genuine protection.

No. Resentment is part of envy.

I drank and smoked to minimize my feelings of vulnerability and to look busy when all of the other girls at my table had been asked to dance. I literally needed something to do, something to help me look busy.

We know from the research that unwanted identity is the most powerful elicitor of shame.

comparing ourselves to others leads us to fear, anger, shame, and sadness.

define narcissism as the shame-based fear of being ordinary.

When we're in shame, we're not fit for human consumption. And we're especially dangerous around people over whom we have some power.

As a shame researcher, I've learned that wherever perfectionism is driving us, shame is riding shotgun.

Last, it's interesting to note that people who are more satisfied in their romantic relationships are less likely to be jealous about potential relationship threats; however, they are more likely to react negatively to actual relationship breaches.

wherever perfectionism is driving us, shame is riding shotgun

We maintain our prized stoicism in front of the people we want to impress or influence, but the second we're around people over whom we have emotional, financial, or physical power, we explode.

Envy occurs when we want something that another person has. Jealousy is when we fear losing a relationship or a valued part of a relationship that we already have.

Yes, we all struggle with shame and the fear of not being enough.

schadenfreude is also born out of fear, powerlessness, and/or a sense of deservedness.

Disengagement triggers shame and our greatest fears—the fears of being abandoned, unworthy, and unlovable.

An intolerance for uncertainty is an important contributing factor to all types of anxiety. Those of us who are generally uncomfortable with uncertainty are more likely to experience anxiety in specific situations as well as to have trait anxiety and anxiety disorders.

But I have plenty of experience with trying to meet everyone's expectations so they won't reject me. It's easy to become a slave to that - to lose yourself in it.

When we stop caring about what people think, we lose our capacity for connection. When we become defined by what people think, we lose our willingness to be vulnerable.

And Grace calls out, 'You are not just a disillusioned old man who may die soon, a middle-aged woman stuck in a job and desperately wanting to get out, a young person feeling the fire in the belly begin to grow cold. You may be insecure, inadequate, mistaken or potbellied. Death, panic, depression, and disillusionment may be near you. But you are not just that. You are accepted.' Never confuse your perception of yourself with the mystery that you really are accepted.

We cannot accept love from another human being when we do not love ourselves, much less accept that God could possibly love us.

Insecurity not only paralyzes our relationship with the living God but has a devastating effect on interpersonal relationships. It is the starting point of all social estrangement. It breaks down openness, which is the bridge to the existential world of the other. It undermines real communication and causes a kind of rupture in the evolution of authentic personality.