Quotes About Support

To talk to ourselves the same way we'd talk to someone we care about.

A jornada da vulnerabilidade não foi feita para se percorrer sozinho. Nós precisamos de apoio. Precisamos de pessoas que nos ajudem na tentativa de trilhar novas maneiras de ser e não nos julguem. Precisamos de uma mão para nos levantar quando cairmos (e se você se entregar a uma vida corajosa, levará alguns tombos).

Tienes que ser valiente en tu vida para que otros puedan ser valientes en la suya»

Like all sympathy, it said, "I'm over here and you're over there. I'm sorry for you and I'm sad for you. AND, while I'm sorry that happened to you, let's be clear: I'm over here." This is not compassion.

They were with me in the arena, fighting for me and with me.

Common humanity recognizes that suffering and feelings of personal inadequacy are part of the shared human experience

Alejarnos de las personas a las que conocemos y queremos por el hecho de apoyar a unos desconocidos a los que en realidad no conocemos, apenas creemos y desde luego no queremos, y que con toda seguridad no estarán ahí para acompañarnos a quimioterapia o traernos comida cuando nuestros hijos estén enfermos... ese es el lado oscuro de la segregación. La familia es precisamente el grupo que la mayoría hemos escogido para gestionar nuestra vida, no para excluirlo de ella.

To be on my list, you have to be what I call a "stretch-mark friend"—our connection has been stretched and pulled so much that it's become part of who we are, a second skin, and there are a few scars to prove it. We're totally uncool with each other.

We need support. We need folks who will let us try on new ways of being without judging us. We need a hand to pull us up off the ground when we get kicked down in the arena. And if we live a courageous life, that will happen.

the self-compassion seat is for us. It's a reminder that if we can't cheer ourselves on, we shouldn't expect others to do it. If we don't make our values priorities, we can't ask others to do it for us.

We have to own our story and share it with someone who has earned the right to hear it, someone whom we can count on to respond with compassion.

Daring leaders must care for and be connected to the people they lead. The data made clear that care and connection are irreducible requirements for wholehearted, productive relationships between leaders and team members.

I think the most important thing she has told me about reaching out to others in crisis is this: "You do it because that's the person you want to be. You do it because that could have been me and one day it could just as easily be you.

Empathy is connecting with the emotion that someone is experiencing, not the event or the circumstance. Shame dissipated the minute I realized that I wasn't alone—that my experience was human.

Courage gives us a voice and compassion gives us an ear. Without both, there is no opportunity for empathy and connection. Again,

empathy is infinite and renewable.

Don't look away. Don't look down. Don't pretend not to see hurt. Look people in the eye. Even when their pain is overwhelming. And when you're hurting and in pain, find the people who can look you in the eye.

When someone shares something great that's happened to them, we can show interest and ask questions. When someone demonstrates joy when we share ours, we can express gratitude: "Thank you for celebrating this with me. It means so much that you're happy for me.

the "action" part of compassion wasn't making things better or fixing,

Think how powerful it might have been for Elizabeth to hear, "You had such courage to apply for that promotion and even more courage to be honest about how much you wanted it. I'm so proud to be your daughter/son/mentor/friend/parent.

Empathy heals another at exactly the same time it is healing me.

Me too" says I may not have had the exact same experience as you, but I know this struggle, and you are not alone. Sympathy says Wow, that's bad, I feel so sorry for you. I don't know or understand what your experience is like, but I'll grant you that it looks pretty bad and I don't want to know.

Love is not something we give and get. It is something we nurture and grow.

we don't derive strength from our rugged individualism, but rather from our collective ability to plan, communicate, and work together.