Quotes About Children

parent who recognizes an upstairs tantrum is left with one clear response: never negotiate with a terrorist. An upstairs tantrum calls for firm boundaries and a clear discussion about appropriate and inappropriate behavior.

Another problem with spanking is that it teaches the child that the parent has no effective strategy short of inflicting bodily pain. That's a direct lesson every parent should consider quite deeply: do we want to teach our kids that the way to resolve a conflict is to inflict physical pain, particularly on someone who is defenseless and cannot fight back?

So when children feel furious, dejected, ashamed, embarrassed, overwhelmed, or out of control in any other way, that's when we need to be there for them. Through connection, we can soothe their internal storm, help them calm down, and assist them in making better decisions

Knowing that our kids live with and through whatever we're experiencing is a powerful insight that can motivate us to begin and continue our journey toward understanding our own stories, the joys as well as the pain.

A Yes Brain approach to parenting is a way of being with each of your children that helps them develop this way of remaining in touch with their inner essence, cultivating this authentic internal compass.

Qué es lo más importante que puedo hacer por mis hijos para ayudarlos a salir adelante y a sentirse a gusto en el mundo?

The basic approach, though, usually entails listening and providing lots of verbal and nonverbal empathy. This is how we attune to our children, tuning in to the inner life of their mind—to their feelings and thoughts, to their perceptions and memories, to what has inner subjective meaning in their lives.

We discussed the importance of setting limits, creating structure, and helping children build internal controls and impulse inhibition by internalizing "no." This is how we use our relationship with

at other times we need to adjust our expectations and realize that our children are capable of more than we're asking of them, so we can challenge them to take more responsibility for their choices.

No existe una forma de criar a los hijos libre de defectos.

even small children—as young as four or five—really can understand some important basics about the way the brain works, and in turn understand themselves and their behavior and feelings in new and more insightful ways.

We also believe that children should have the right to be free from any form of violence, especially at the hands of the people they trust most to protect them.

En realidad, sin embargo, la conducta de búsqueda de atención no solo es totalmente apropiada desde el punto de vista del desarrollo, sino que en realidad es relacional. La atención es una necesidad de todos los niños en todas partes.

Mindsight is the basis of social and emotional intelligence, and we can model this for our children as we help guide the development of their changing brains.

stage, and what they are ultimately capable of. This is how we use our own mindsight skills to see the mind behind our children's behavior.

Ultimately, then, kids need us to set boundaries and communicate our expectations. But the key here is that all discipline should begin by nurturing our children and attuning to their internal world, allowing them to know that they are seen, heard, and loved by their parents—even when they've done something wrong.

Y cuando un padre o una madre está alterado, es muy difícil que un niño esté tranquilo y feliz.

Debemos procurar que nuestros hijos, además de sentirse seguros y vistos, se sientan consolados en sus horas más difíciles. Eso no significa –ni mucho menos– que los rescatemos de toda situación dolorosa e incómoda. Es un hecho que a menudo cuando más aprenden y maduran

When children are securely attached to their parents, they feel safe enough to test that relationship. In other words, your child's misbehavior is often a sign of his trust and safety with you. Many parents notice that their children "save it all up for them," behaving much better at school or with other adults than they do at home. This is why. These flare-ups are often signs of safety and trust, rather than just some form of rebellion.

Part of truly loving our kids, and giving them what they need, means offering them clear and consistent boundaries, creating predictable structure in their lives, as well as having high expectations for them. Children need to understand the way the world works: what's permissible and what's not.

the behaviors and skills we want and expect our kids to demonstrate, like sound decision making, control of their emotions and bodies, empathy, self-understanding, and morality—are dependent on a part of their brain that hasn't fully developed yet.

También es esencial tener en cuenta que por mucho que los sentimientos de nuestro hijo nos parezcan frustrantes y absurdos, para él son reales e importantes. Es fundamental tratarlos como tales en nuestra respuesta.

deep, empathic connection can and should be combined with clear and firm boundaries that create needed structure in children's lives.

canoes, and they float down their own river of well-being. Many of the challenges we face as parents result from the times when our kids aren't in the flow, when they're either too chaotic or too rigid.