Quotes About Children

the inappropriate use of what we can call "punishment time-outs" frequently just makes children angrier and more dysregulated, leaving them even less able to control themselves or think about what they've done.

research is really clear on this point. Kids who achieve the best outcomes in life—emotionally, relationally, and even educationally—have parents who raise them with a high degree of connection and nurturing, while also communicating and maintaining clear limits and high expectations.

Mindsight is a teachable skill at the heart of being empathic and insightful, moral and compassionate. Mindsight is the basis of social and emotional intelligence, and we can model this for our children as we help guide the development of their changing brains.

we parent, and especially when we discipline, we need to work hard to understand our children's points of view, their developmental stage, and what they are ultimately capable of.

do we want to teach our kids that the way to resolve a conflict is to inflict physical pain, particularly on someone who is defenseless and cannot fight back?

when kids learn even the fundamentals of playing piano, their brains develop differently from the brains of kids who don't, so they can more fully understand their own bodies in relationship to the objects around them.

What we can do is help our children make sense of their experiences so that those challenges will more likely be encoded in the brain consciously as "learning experiences," rather than unconscious associations or even traumas that limit them in the future.

Effective discipline means that we're not only stopping a bad behavior or promoting a good one, but also teaching skills and nurturing the connections in our children's brains that will help them make better decisions and handle themselves well in the future. Automatically. Because that's how their brains will have been wired.

As parents become more aware and emotionally healthy, their children reap the rewards and move toward health as well. That means that integrating and cultivating your own brain is one of the most loving and generous gifts you can give your children.

ayudar a los niños a sentirse 1) seguros: se sienten protegidos y libres de todo mal; 2) vistos: saben que les importas y les prestas atención; 3) consolados: saben que estarás a su lado en los malos momentos; y 4) a salvo: basándose en las otras condiciones, confían en que, previsiblemente, los ayudes a sentirse «a gusto» en el mundo, y después aprenden a ayudarse a sí mismos a sentirse seguros, vistos y consolados.

However, if we truly love our kids and want what's best for them, we need to be able to tolerate the tension and discomfort they (and we) may experience when we set a limit. We want to say yes to our children as often as possible, but sometimes saying no is the most loving thing we can do.

parenting matters, even to the extent of influencing our inborn and genetically shaped temperament.

Estar presentes crea por tanto en nuestros hijos vías neurales que conducen a la identidad individual, la determinación, la fortaleza y la resiliencia.

What do you really want for your children? What qualities do you hope they develop and take into their adult lives? Most likely you want them to be happy, independent, and successful. You want them to enjoy fulfilling relationships and live a life full of meaning and purpose. Now think about what percentage of your

Un niño puede tener un apego evitativo en su relación con un progenitor y, aun así, disfrutar de un apego seguro, junto con los beneficios correspondientes, con otro cuidador.

A parent who recognizes an upstairs tantrum is left with one clear response: never negotiate with a terrorist. An upstairs tantrum calls for firm boundaries and a clear discussion about appropriate and inappropriate behavior.

It can be helpful to make a homemade book with pictures or photos to retell an upsetting story, or to prepare your child for a transition, like a new bedtime routine or starting preschool.

works with the right to tell our life stories. When children learn to pay attention to and share their own stories, they can respond in healthy ways to everything from a scraped elbow to a major loss or trauma.

Pero recuerda, el comportamiento es comunicación. Y un comportamiento problemático es, en realidad, un mensaje de nuestros hijos: «Necesito ayuda para desarrollar mi capacidad en este aspecto concreto. Todavía soy incapaz de hacerlo bien.»

When children deepen their ability to know themselves, consider the feelings of others, and take action toward repairing a situation, they build and strengthen connections within the frontal lobe, which allows them to better know themselves and get along with others as they move into adolescence and adulthood.

experience the ways a Yes Brain parenting approach empowers you to create connections and communication with your children that support them as they develop the resilience and inner strength that will last a lifetime. With

Ser padres conscientes. Un mejor conocimiento de nosotros mismos contribuye a un desarrollo integral de nuestros hijos, escrito en colaboración con Mary Hartzell.

La disciplina efectiva depende de una relación afectuosa y respetuosa entre el adulto y el niño. La disciplina no debe incluir nunca amenazas ni humillaciones, provocar daño físico, asustar ni hacer que los niños sientan que el adulto es un enemigo. La disciplina ha de transmitir sensación de seguridad y cariño a todos los implicados.

El primer paso de la disciplina es prestar atención a las emociones de los niños. Cuando los niños se portan mal, suele deberse a que no manejan bien sus sentimientos fuertes y a que aún no cuentan con las destrezas necesarias para tomar buenas decisiones. Así pues, estar atento a la experiencia emocional que subyace a una conducta es tan importante como fijarse en la conducta misma.