Quotes About Resilience

Sometimes parents avoid talking about upsetting experiences, thinking that doing so will reinforce their children's pain or make things worse. Actually, telling the story is often exactly what children need, both to make sense of the event and to move on to a place where they can feel better about what happened.

You don't have to get stuck in a negative experience. You don't have to be a victim to external events, or internal emotions. You can use your mind to take charge of how you feel, and how you act.

the changes during adolescence are not something to just get through; they are qualities we actually need to hold on to in order to live a full and meaningful life in adulthood.

the roots of security and resilience are to be found in the sense of being understood by and having the sense of existing in the heart and mind of a loving, caring, attuned and self-processed other, an other with a mind and heart of her own.

People exposed to emotional abuse as children have been found to be at higher risk of developing medical illnesses later in life,

Connection is about walking through the hard times with our children and being there for them when they're emotionally suffering, just like we would if they scraped their knee and were physically suffering.

Your job as a parent is not to prevent them from experiencing setbacks and failures, but to give them the tools and emotional resilience they need to weather life's storms, and then to walk beside them through those storms.

avoid solving and resist rescuing, even when they make minor mistakes or not-so-great choices.

No-Drama Discipline allows us to communicate to our children, "I'm with you. I've got your back. Even when you're at your worst and I don't like the way you're acting, I love you, and I'm here for you. I understand you're having a hard time, and I am here.

No se sentirán tristes o enfadados o dolidos o solos eternamente. Éste es un concepto que al principio les cuesta entender. Cuando sienten dolor o miedo, a veces les resulta difícil imaginar que no van a seguir sufriendo siempre. Ver las cosas a largo plazo no suele ser fácil ni siquiera para un adulto, y mucho menos para un niño pequeño

One of the best ways to promote this type of integration is to help retell the story of the frightening or painful experience.

Como padres, estamos programados para intentar proteger a nuestros hijos de todo sufrimiento y dolor, pero en realidad eso es imposible. Nuestros hijos se caerán, se sentirán heridos y sufrirán miedo, tristeza y enfado. De hecho, a menudo estas experiencias difíciles son las que les permiten crecer y descubrir el mundo.

After retelling the story several times, Bella's fears lessened and eventually went away.

one extreme is chaos, where there's a total lack of control. The other extreme is rigidity, where there's too much control, leading to a lack of flexibility and adaptability. We all move

All of this applies to our kids as well. They have their own little canoes, and they float down their own river of well-being. Many of the challenges we face as parents result from the times when our kids aren't in the flow, when

neuroplasticidad y la teoría del apego, deseamos subrayar una máxima inspiradora: la historia no determina el destino.

We don't want our children to hurt. But we also want them to do more than simply get through their difficult times; we want them to face their troubles and grow from them. When Amanda retreated to the left, hiding from all of the painful emotions that were running through her right brain, she denied an important part of herself that she needed to acknowledge.

Asking why, what, and how can help create an internal sense of clarity even in the face of external chaos.

This Yes Brain mindset is what we want for our kids, so that they learn to view obstacles and new experiences not as paralyzing impediments but simply as challenges to be faced and overcome and learned from.

From parental sensitivity and structure emerge a child's resourcefulness, resilience, and relational ability.

You can become the safe harbor for your own children that you never had as a child.

the moments you are just trying to survive are actually opportunities to help your child thrive.

You can do your kids a lot of good simply by asking, "What are some ideas you have to make it better and solve this problem?" Given the chance once they're calm, kids will usually do the right thing, and learn in the process.

Aquí me tienes. Esto es así. Sé que es difícil, pero puedes hacerlo. Estoy contigo.»