Quotes About Resilience

Así ampliamos su zona verde: enseñándoles con cariño que pueden frustrarse y fracasar y que superar la frustración y el fracaso los hará más fuertes y más sabios.

When we help our children name their pain and their fears, we help them tame them.

When kids are given whatever they want all the time, they lose opportunities to build resilience and learn important life lessons:

Cuando los niños dicen «no puedo» o «no quiero», pídeles que agreguen la palabra «todavía». Esto promueve una actitud abierta a la posibilidad muy poderosa, porque opera desde el cerebro afirmativo con la idea de que podrán tener éxito, de que lo lograrán siempre y cuando estén dispuestos a prepararse, a perseverar y a trabajar para conseguirlo.

delaying gratification, about having to work for something, about dealing with disappointment.

In each situation, make decisions about what's best for this unique child in this particular moment, and what will lead to growth and an expansion of what they believe they can do. That's resilience.

Kids who approach the world from a No Brain state are at the mercy of their circumstances and their feelings. They get stuck in their emotions, unable to shift them, and they complain about their realities rather than finding healthy ways to respond to them. They worry, often obsessively, about facing something new or making a mistake, rather than making decisions in a Yes Brain spirit of openness and curiosity. Stubbornness often rules the day in a No Brain state.

Mindfulness exercises produce literal changes in the brain's connections, significantly affecting how well a person interacts with other people and adapts to difficult situations.

the moments you are just trying to survive are actually

Debemos procurar que nuestros hijos, además de sentirse seguros y vistos, se sientan consolados en sus horas más difíciles. Eso no significa –ni mucho menos– que los rescatemos de toda situación dolorosa e incómoda. Es un hecho que a menudo cuando más aprenden y maduran

other words, on top of our basic brain architecture and our inborn temperament, parents have much they can do to provide the kinds of experiences that will help develop a resilient, well-integrated brain.

Remember that after ninety seconds an unimpeded emotion will begin to transform on its own. It is often how we fret over a feeling that creates suffering and maintains the intensity and duration of that feeling in our lives." Excerpt From Brainstorm Daniel J. Siegel, MD

It's easy to see when our kids aren't integrated—they become overwhelmed by their emotions, confused and chaotic. They can't respond calmly and capably to the situation at hand. Tantrums, meltdowns, aggression, and most of the other challenging experiences of parenting—and life—are a result of a loss of integration, also known as dis-integration.

Watch for ways to help your children learn to be still and calm at times and find the deep-ocean peacefulness within their hub. From there they'll be better able to survive the storms brewing within them from moment to moment, and they'll have a better chance of thriving—emotionally, psychologically, socially—as they grow toward adulthood.

Our children need repeated experiences that allow them to develop wiring in their brain that helps them delay gratification, contain urges to react aggressively toward others, and flexibly deal with not getting their way.

canoes, and they float down their own river of well-being. Many of the challenges we face as parents result from the times when our kids aren't in the flow, when they're either too chaotic or too rigid.

Recordemos que son muchas las maneras de malcriar a los hijos —darles demasiadas cosas, rescatarlos de toda situación difícil, privarles de cualquier oportunidad para afrontar el fracaso y la decepción—, pero darles demasiado amor o atención no es una de ellas.

teach reflection, relationships, and resilience.

activate them in a moment of distress by first connecting before redirecting.

So one extreme is chaos, where there's a total lack of control. The other extreme is rigidity, where there's too much control, leading to a lack of flexibility and adaptability.

mental health as our ability to remain in a "river of well-being.

recae en ti la responsabilidad de aprender a ofrecer tu presencia de formas que te empoderen en grado sumo a ti como progenitor y fomenten en tu hijo la resiliencia y la fortaleza. Es este poder de la presencia lo que nos permite crear una mente empoderada para nuestros hijos… incluso si metemos la pata con regularidad.

Estar presentes crea por tanto en nuestros hijos vías neurales que conducen a la identidad individual, la determinación, la fortaleza y la resiliencia.

Daniel J. Siegel