Quotes About Self-care

Some wounds are so great that the only way to survive is to lock them up in a little box and put them somewhere deep inside,

I also hope this map will guide you to heal in a way that helps you become an unflinching source of kindness and self-compassion for yourself

Finally, positive visualization can be a powerful adjunct to thought-substitution. Some survivors gradually learn to short-circuit the fear-mongering processes of the critic by invoking images of past successes and accomplishments, as well as picturing safe places, loving friends or comforting memories.

When we do not attend to our feelings, they accumulate inside us and create a mounting anxiety that we commonly dismiss as stress.

12. Time Urgency. I am not in danger. I do not need to rush. I will not hurry unless it is a true emergency. I am learning to enjoy doing my daily activities at a relaxed pace.

Food offers us our first outside source of self-soothing, and when a child is starving for love, he frequently makes food his love object.

It taught me to practice self-care in a spirit of giving to a child who needed and really deserved to be helped.

They do this by shaming or intimidating you whenever you have a natural impulse to have sympathy for yourself, or stand up for yourself. The instinct to care for yourself and to protect yourself against unfairness is then forced to become dormant.

When we disburden ourselves of old unresolved traumas, energy wasted holding the past at bay becomes available for celebrating daily life.

The most essential of these are the deaths of our self-compassion and our self-esteem, as well as our abilities to protect ourselves and fully express ourselves.

Pain is excess energy crying out for release." – Gerald Heard

I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself". - Jane Eyre

As emotional recovery progresses, the mindfulness described above begins to extend toward our emotional experience. This helps us to stop automatically dissociating from our feelings. We then learn to identify our feelings and choose healthy ways to respond to them and from them.

I sometimes recommend that readers view the table of contents and start with whatever headings most strike a chord. Although the book is laid out in a somewhat linear fashion, everyone's journey of recovering is different, and journeys can be initiated in a variety of ways.

SOMATIC HEALING

Neutral is especially important for flight types to cultivate.

Many of us still suffer unnecessarily from abdicating such basic rights as the right to say no, the right to be treated with respect, and the right to have our own feelings, opinions, and preferences. Our health and future growth depends on us claiming and exercising these rights.

crippling state of self-attack, which eventually becomes the equivalent of full-fledged self-abandonment. The ability to support himself or take his own side in any way is decimated.

as recovering progresses, and especially as the critic shrinks, the desire to help yourself- to care for yourself - becomes more spontaneous. This is especially true when we mindfully do things for ourselves in a spirit of loving-kindness. As such, we can do it for the child we were – the child who was deprived through no fault of her own. And, we can do it because we believe every child, without exception, deserves loving care.

angering, crying, verbal ventilating and feeling.

Self-mothering is a resolute refusal to indulge in self-hatred and self-abandonment. It proceeds from the realization that self-punishment is counterproductive. It is enhanced by the understanding that patience and self-encouragement are more effective than self-judgment and self-rejection in achieving recovery.

Emotional neglect, alone, causes children to abandon themselves, and to give up on the formation of a self. They do so to preserve an illusion of connection with the parent and to protect themselves from the danger of losing that tenuous connection. This typically requires a great deal of self-abdication, e.g., the forfeiture of self-esteem, self-confidence, self-care, self-interest, and self-protection.

By tending to yourself first, paradoxically, you are in a better position to tend to your child. When you can feel your center, can notice that your breath slows down and you experience the fluidity of changing sensations, you have moved out of a momentary "freeze." Your energy is now available to pay close attention to your child's needs and expression. In this way you will naturally circumvent complicating your child's reactions with your own.

Når verden går meg imot, og det unnlater den sjelden å gjøre når det gis noen leilighet til det, har jeg alltid funnet meg vel ved å ta en friluftsvandring som demper for min smule bekymring og uro. Hva som hadde vært i veien denne gangen, husker jeg nå ikke mer; men det som står klart for min erindring, er at jeg en sommerettermiddag for noen år siden vandret oppover engene på østsiden av Akerselva