Quotes About Coping

I try to cope with everything through humor.

Llorar ayuda porque lava el dolor.

More wine helps; it takes the edge off the despair.

He felt it deep, like a stone too big to heft out of the garden. He just had to how around it and make do.

Then Lucas would try to turn over, and there would be a low moan, and Christopher would get up, and I knew that Lucas was awake in the dark that he carried around with him all the time. 'What can I do?' Christopher would say. 'You weren't there. You can't do anything.' None of us knew how to make it light.

IF WE LEARNED TO FLOAT IN SORROW RATHER THAN THRASH ABOUT LIKE A DROWNING EMOTIONAL VICTIM, WE MIGHT FIND THAT IT CAN BE USED TO SET US FREE.

Pervasiveness. Unlike pessimists who let their doubts and troubles affect every area of their lives, optimists are able to put their problems in a "box" and not let them distract them.

You can stand there defeated, or deal with those elements within your control and move on. Which makes more sense?

do. If life had taught her anything—if she had a philosophy of life—it probably boiled down to that: Go with the skid.

When a bad thing happens, a terrible thing, you feel it all the time, but you don't have a choice after a while. You go on anyway. I never would have understood that before. It's something I would have been happy to live my whole life without understanding.

I don't think anyone can give you advice when you've got a broken heart.

I just always have to cry out a breakup, and then I can make peace with it pretty quickly.

Some people, when desperate, retreat to pills or hard liquor. I nap.

This was yet another good thing about drinking, of course: not that drinking made you forget things, but that it made it possible for you to plausibly pretend you'd forgotten things.

If you don't learn to laugh at life it'll surely kill you, that I know.

Brook, you don't sound like yourself." My reply came out of my mouth before I could choose it. "I am not the person I was three weeks ago and I will never be that person again." Surprised by my own response, I relayed it to my therapist who was helping me work through issues surrounding my brother's death. "Of course you're not," she said. "And one of the best things you can do for yourself is to know that you are a different person now.

stress is not something to be afraid of or avoided. It is the controllability, pattern, and intensity of stress that can cause problems.

AFTER ALL, ONE OF THE DEFINING elements of a traumatic experience—particularly one that is so traumatic that one dissociates because there is no other way to escape from it—is a complete loss of control and a sense of utter powerlessness. As a result, regaining control is an important aspect of coping with traumatic stress.

Drugs and alcohol are not my problem," he wrote. "Reality is my problem, drugs and alcohol are my solution.

What you are pointing out is how adaptive it is to dissociate in many situations. If a soldier in combat simply went down the arousal continuum-and got to the flee and then fight stages-he would jump up and get shot. In order to maintain access to parts of his cortex-to think and behave in the ways he was trained to keep him alive in combat-he needs to dissociate to a certain degree.

While this doesn't mean that smart children need less affection, it does suggest that if they are deprived, brighter kids may be better equipped to cope.

As one family therapist famously put it, we tend to prefer the "certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty.

Dissociation as a coping mechanism will happen more commonly when the individual feels that a threatening situation is inescapable. If you're a child and your family has a lot of conflict, you don't have many options. You can't say, "Hey, I'm moving out." Very young children can't fight or flee. They have to stay.

the control she gained over the situation allowed her to manage her anxiety such that it minimized the effects that the abuse had on her daily life.