Quotes About Coping

angering, crying, verbal ventilating and feeling.

The only pain that can be avoided is the pain that comes from trying to avoid unavoidable pain.

When fear is the dominant emotion in a flashback the person feels extremely anxious, panicky or even suicidal.

Trauma can be prevented more easily than it can be healed.

What I do know is that we become traumatized when our ability to respond to a perceived threat is in some way overwhelmed. This inability to adequately respond can impact us in obvious ways, as well as ways that are subtle.

I found that, if given appropriate guidance, human beings can and do shake off the effects of overwhelming events and return to their lives using exactly the same procedures that animals use.

Some things must be dealt with at the roots. Trauma is one of these things.

When children are asked to "turn the other cheek," "put on a happy face," or "strike back" in situations where they are experiencing daily terror, they do not learn character. On the contrary, they lose self-confidence and a sense of safety necessary to succeed.

Another signal may be shunning people and things they used to enjoy. Or your child may try to control his environment and the people around him in order to manage unbearable anxiety.

Getraumatiseerde individuen zitten tussen de wal en het schip, gevangen in het slechtste van twee werelden. Op het ene moment worden ze overspoeld door dwingende emoties als verschrikking, woede en schaamte, het andere moment zijn ze afgesloten van alles, vervreemd van een op het gevoel gebaseerde instinctieve gronding. Het gevolg is dat ze niet ervaren dat het leven zin heeft en geen koers kunnen uitzetten.

One of my clients, while working through his childhood abuse at the hands of "barrio" gang members, said it this way: "I don't have to justify my experience with memories any more.

Sometimes fear helps, he said. Like fear of flunking a test, so you study. But when bad's going to happen for sure, fear only hurts.

Through fictions, we accommodate ourselves to a world that is not ours, much less ourselves. As psychoanalysts and child psychologists confirm, we cannot cope with reality without made-up stories

Are you okay?' she asked me. Of course,' I said. 'Why wouldn't I be okay?' There are lots of reasons why you might not be okay.' There are lots of reasons why anyone might not be okay,' I said.

Isn't that what people say: it is better this way? Meaning I cannot bear it but I will. I will close my eyes and stumble forward into the darkness.

One of the ways to avoid being beaten by the system is to laugh at it.

I once tried drowning my sorrows, till I found out they could swim.

H]umor has, among other duties, the task of controlling anxieties, of mastering threats, by increasing their distance and reducing their dimensions.

It didn't get better, not in my book. I mean if you weren't looking too hard at what just happened or who might be down the road or at some other stuff. Maybe living well is the art of not looking at that, at the other stuff, when you don't have to. Or being okay with it.