Quotes About Coping

Introducing change is like pulling off a bandage : the pain is a memory as soon as you feel it.

Feeling sorry for yourself is a universal solvent of salvation.

Evil devastates any possibility of an intellectual response; the tools of the rational intellect are as helpless incoping with the aftereffects of evil as it was in preventing it.

walking with on Robertson was an outing of the self-destructed, trying to make do with one day at a time.

Self pity becomes your oxygen. But you learned to breathe it without a gasp. So, nobody even notices you're hurting.

On a daily basis, she accepts those facts and stays busy making the best of her own life.

In my mind, people and situations "drove me to drink." Once I became sober, I had to learn to handle my emotions so these same people and situations could no longer do this to me.

Regardless of the cause of our emotional disturbances, there is always something we can do about our feelings. In fact, we are the only one who can do something about them.

I find myself writing this manuscript and talking to others about controlling feelings when I'm not always able to control my own. At times, not only can I not control my feelings, I can't control my thinking or my actions.

We all have strategies to distract ourselves from what we cannot bear. Memory, for example, serves such a function.

Self-injury is a coping mechanism that BPs use to release or manage overwhelming emotional pain—usually feelings of shame, anger, sadness, and abandonment. Self-mutilation may release the body's own opiates, known as beta-endorphins. These chemicals lead to a general feeling of well-being.

They may then try to cope in ways that do not work, or that even make the situation worse. Meanwhile, the unhealthy behaviors of the person with BPD get reinforced, because others accept responsibility for the feelings and actions that actually belong to the person with the disorder.

Once you begin to accept that a mentally ill person will sometimes behave irrationally, you alleviate some of your own internal stress and strain… [O]nce you do so you can begin to develop more effective coping mechanisms. No longer burdened by the "what-ifs" and "shoulds" in your mind, you can deal with the way things really are. And you seek out what works.

Some people with BPD who act out may use a game we call "Tag, You're It" to relieve their anxiety, pain, and feelings of shame. It's complex because it combines shame, splitting, denial, and projection.

Keep in mind that while borderline behavior can be difficult for adults to cope with, it is much harder for children. They have no sense of perspective, little experience, and little or no intellectual understanding of BPD. Furthermore, they are dependent on their borderline parents to meet their most basic physical and emotional needs.

A traumatised person does not remember the trauma, but experiences it over and over again.

You're dealing with a deadly disease. There is no way you're going to be able to work and fight this battle at the same time.

Lord, my whole world is turning upside down. First the news about cancer. Then the doctors' treatment plans. And now I find out the treatments may make things worse,

That's what terrible, sordid situations did to you, made you act crazily, against your own truths, against yourself.

It's not what you carry, but how you can learn to carry it.

I'm throwing myself a birthday party next week," he said. "One of the many ways I'm whistling past the graveyard these days. I'll bet you're a grand whistler, aren't you? Please come." —

Long ago Corolla told me that it's not what happens to us that matters most, but how we can learn to carry it.

Sometimes when you're hurting, it helps to throw yourself at something that will take your weight.

I haven't been drunk in over a year—not since my mother fell seriously ill—and I've missed the way it comes with its own perfect glove of fog, settling snugly and beautifully over my brain. I don't want to think and I don't want to feel,