Quotes About Coping

We each have to make our choices, and then find a way to live with them. And if we can't, well, then, that's when we know something has to change.

And men always seem to have a more difficult time compartmentalizing at these times than women, I've found. Women are stronger because they have to be.

You see, with me, when I'm nervous, I smile and laugh.

If you put frightening things into a picture then they can't harm you. If fact, you end becoming quite fond of them.

sang as she walked because it was better than weeping.

I didn't know how to live my life, and suddenly I was thrust into it and had no choice but to live it.

compensating mechanism for an apparent loss

Hay tanta angustia y espanto dentro de cada uno de nosotros que es necesario idear mecanismos de control y ponerlos a funcionar antes de llegar al punto del naufragio.

When things are shaky and nothing is working, we might realize that we are on the verge of something. We might realize that this is a very vulnerable and tender place, and that tenderness can go either way. We can shut down and feel resentful or we can touch in on that throbbing quality. (9)

I began drinking because the thought that I was drinking gave me a kind of identity: each time I poured myself a brandy in the deserted afternoon I could say to myself 'I am a woman who drinks.

I told him that my father was dead and that to take her mind off it I had told my mother that I was pregnant. I said it had taken her mind off it wonderfully, so far; and that it also happened to be true.

Some wounds are so great that the only way to survive is to lock them up in a little box and put them somewhere deep inside,

You decide for yourself when it will hurt.

But what I found out that summer . . . was that I could swallow whatever hit me and let it sink as if nothing had happened. So I mimicked a game that meant nothing to me now, I was going through the motions, and then it looked as if what I was doing had a purpose, but it did not.

when your own goddamn brain starts fucking with you, you're not just fucked up a little bit, you're totally fucked up.

I have to say that anger is the blanket that comes around me, and that blunts and blurs my sense of proportion.

As unsupported children, we have to dissociate because we are not able to effectively grieve.

Feeling is the antithesis of pain…the more pain one feels, the less pain one suffers" – Arthur Janov

The most expeditious way to get past an unpleasant emotional experience is to embrace it and to fully feel and express it.

Finally, positive visualization can be a powerful adjunct to thought-substitution. Some survivors gradually learn to short-circuit the fear-mongering processes of the critic by invoking images of past successes and accomplishments, as well as picturing safe places, loving friends or comforting memories.

repression of one end of the emotional continuum often leads to a repression of the whole continuum, and the person becomes emotionally deadened.

Neutral is especially important for flight types to cultivate.

One common sign of being flashed-back is that we feel small, helpless, and hopeless.

This appears to be a mechanism of dissociation, and in this instance, it rendered my client amnesiac of my high regard for our work together. I