Quotes About Coping

The more you can escape from how horrible things really are, the less it's going to bother you...and then, the worse things get.

It's not psychopathology that counts. It's what you do with it.

I"ve learned that I must find positive outlets for anger or it will destroy me.

You know I think that going into therapy is a very positive thing, and talking about it is really helpful, because the more you talk the more your fears fade, because you get it out.

I cry and pray and try to find the positive or the lesson for my pain.

Every new situation leads to new strategy for survival.

To find oneself jilted is a blow to one's pride. One must do one's best to forget it and if one doesn't succeed at least one must pretend to.

Tragedy makes you disable, but your attitude towards tragedy keeps you disable.

... Whenever Eleanor felt nervous or scared, she told herself to be happy instead. (It didn't really make her feel better, but it kept her from feeling worse …)

If you accept the situation, you will find strength for strategic adaptation.

Life is full of unfairness but you'll have to deal with it, as long as you're able to take a breath.

Being strong and positive is like holding your breath under water. You will never be able to do it forever. Sometimes crying out and express yourself will help you from drowning.

Every morning, whether I've slept or not, whether I've made it through the day without crying or given in and sobbed in the shower, where no one can hear me? the sun comes up, and I make my choice.

Preparing for the worst is an activity I have taken up since I turned thirty-five and the worst actually began to happen.

A phrase the doctor used had reassured Mom—"treatable but not curable.

GRASS: Guilt, Resentment, Anxiety, Self-absorption, and Stress. These are the five real and measurable costs of not managing transition effectively.

People's anxiety rises and their motivation falls. They feel disoriented and self-doubting. They are resentful and self-protective. Energy is drained away from work into coping tactics.

Grief is itself a med'cine.

Grief is itself a medicine.

I can do this, he was thinking. All I have to do is just be as normal as everyone else. All I have to do is just not blow apart like a two-dollar clock. Just pick words and put one of them after the other like a baby learning to walk, like a drunk carefully crossing the street.

What happened in the past that was painful has a great deal to do with what we are today, but revisiting this painful past can contribute little or nothing to what we need to do now.

the awful you knew was easier to handle than the awful you imagined.

Somebody tells you they drink because they're a failure, it ain't so. They're a failure because they drink. And they drink because it's so damn hard not to. But as long as they have a bottle that isn't empty, they never feel far from being happy. ("Bums")

Although I'd had no trouble looking at the casket the day before, on that Saturday I did my best to keep my eyes averted. I stared instead at the stained-glass window behind the altar and imagined shooting the panes out with a slingshot.