Quotes About Coping

You okay?" Sam asks. "Gonna be," I say.

I do not know what you are supposed to do with memories likes these. It feels wrong to want to forget. Perhaps this is why we write these things down, so we can move on.

You can't solve problems by running away from them, it was said, and like the good child she had once been, she had believed this. But it wasn't true. Some problems could only be solved by running away from them.

I'm going to smile and make you think I'm happy, I'm going to laugh, so you don't see me cry, I'm going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me—I'm going to smile.

We as human beings do this thing where we stuff down our feelings until they find a way to manifest themselves. We try to avoid them until there's no more room and they come bubbling up like a pot of boiling-hot water that overflows. And when it does, it burns.

The heart will break, but broken live on.

The pain, the sense of loss, of fear—it would hit out of nowhere. She'd learned this. She'd also learned to accept it, and to bow under it, give in to it, because the harder she tried to shove it away, the harder it hit next time around, and it would be all the more debilitating

PTSD sucked. It was a dragon that lived inside her own head, shaking loose more and more nightmarish memories, each one prompting another like dominoes tumbling.

But her so-called self-indulgence, her cutting everyone out of her life, had been an act of survival, not the act of a victim.

us down? Does understanding help us heal? I don't think anything really heals trauma. You just find some kind of narrative to learn to cohabit with it.

don't think anything really heals trauma. You just find some kind of narrative to learn to cohabit with it. I suppose now is the time to admit to you, Dear Diary, I never had a therapist. I always imagined that if I did she would coax me to start a journal.

After thirty years on the beat, she finds it harder to center herself these days. A human can take only so much depravity and senseless loss of life.

Her goal in life is to help others cope with mental adversity, to show that one does not have to be irreparably destroyed by horrific actions of the past.

Matthew figures it must be pretty horrible to need therapy if it makes people so sad.

should experience grief?" She stormed off and slapped through

I don't think anything really heals trauma. You just find some kind of narrative to learn to cohabit with it.

Avoidance is a simple way of coping by not having to cope.

When the present falls apart, so does the future we had associated with it. And having the future taken away is the mother of all plot twists.

Right now it's all about one foot, then the other. That's one thing I tell patients who are in the midst of crippling depression, the kind that makes them think, There's the bathroom. It's about five feet away. I see it, but I can't get there. One foot, then the other.

During an initial burst of pain, people tend to lash out either at others or at themselves, to turn the anger outward or inward.

People often mistake numbness for nothingness, but numbness isn't the absence of feelings; it's a response to being overwhelmed by too many feelings.

Displacement's a bitch, isn't it? We all use defense mechanisms to deal with anxiety, frustration, or unacceptable impulses, but what's fascinating about them is that we aren't aware of them in the moment.

You can't get through your pain by diminishing it, he reminded me. You get through your pain by accepting it and figuring out what to do with it. You can't change what you're denying or minimizing. And, of course, often what seen like trivial worries are manifestations of deeper ones.

And when that happens, the only control you have is how you deal with that stick—your way, not the way others say you should.