Quotes About Coping

Why, then, do depression and unhappiness outlast the situations that trigger them? Or why, sometimes, does a sense of malaise and dis-­satisfaction go on and on? The short answer is that these emotions per­sist because we have emotional reactions to our own emotions that ac­tually keep them going.

when you start to feel a little sad, anxious or irritable, it's not the mood that does the damage but how you react to it.

Not that thick book called The Purpose of Your Life. You get that one later. These are "How To" manuals. Each is called Getting By When You're Up The Creek Without a Paddle, Fighting Back When You're Sick of Getting Pushed Around, Love—What It is and How to Survive It, or How to Keep From Going Crazy When Everyone Around You Already Is.

Fear of breakdown is the fear of a breakdown that has already been experienced

They feel guilty for having survived so they pretend the bad things never happened Exodus (1960) screenplay

The only defence against raw, naked feeling was reason. Understanding made sadness easier to bear.

Laughter is the only thing that cuts trouble down to a size where you can talk to it. -- character Billy Clyde Puckett in Semi-Tough

I got picked on a lot, even by teachers too. I liked to listen to musicals and bake, and my homeroom teacher found out and mocked me in front of the whole class for baking.

No one with panic attacks and anxiety has ever gone 'crazy,' " the site claims. "In fact, because you realize that you have panic attacks, this is just another indication that you are not going crazy. People that 'go crazy' lose contact with reality. Anxious people are too much in contact with reality. Thus, people with panic and anxiety problems NEVER 'go crazy.' It simply cannot happen.

Stress is nothing more than a socially acceptable form of mental illness. —RICHARD CARLSON, PH.D.

the feeling of control—whether real or illusory—is one of the wellsprings of mental health.

anticipating unpleasant events can minimize their impact.

change is inevitable, and when it happens, the wisest response is not to wail or whine but to suck it up and deal with

Someone can break your heart, leave you dead on the lawn, and still you never learn what to say to stop it all over again.

We are doing the jobs of ten different people while still trying to keep up with our lives, our children and parents, our friends, our careers, our hobbies, and our favorite TV shows. It's no wonder that sometimes one memory gets confounded with another, leading us to show up in the right place but on the wrong day, or to forget something as simple as where we last put our glasses or the remote.

We don't want our children to hurt. But we also want them to do more than simply get through their difficult times; we want them to face their troubles and grow from them. When Amanda retreated to the left, hiding from all of the painful emotions that were running through her right brain, she denied an important part of herself that she needed to acknowledge.

When we help our children name their pain and their fears, we help them tame them.

the moments you are just trying to survive are actually

Cuanto más ancha sea su ventana de tolerancia a las dificultades y a las emociones desagradables, más resilientes serán frente a la adversidad, en lugar de desmoronarse si las cosas no salen como es debido.

So what I do now is to pre-empt that by making the up into a virtue, and telling funny stories about how crap I am before people have a chance to notice it for themselves and think maybe I haven't realised.

There's a difference between pain and suffering," Wendell says. "You're going to have to feel pain—everyone feels pain at times—but you don't have

to suffer so much. You're not choosing the pain, but you're choosing the suffering." He

1) As a therapist, I know a lot about pain, about the ways in which pain is tied to loss. But I also know something less commonly understood: that change and loss travel together. We can't have change without loss, which is why so often people say they want change but nonetheless stay exactly the same.

What was helpful in getting to where the person is today? What wasn't? What has she learned about herself—her strengths, her challenges, her internal scripts and narratives—and what coping strategies and healthier ways of being can she take with her when she leaves?