Quotes About Coping

Survivors who look perfectly fine on the outside can still be emotionally empty at the core. And because of that, they can't always connect with their kids or their spouses—or they make the conscious decision not to connect, so that they don't fail the people they love.

The moral of this story is that no matter how much we try, no matter how much we want it... some stories just don't have a happy ending.

I understood why you didn't cry, even though it hurt: there are kinds of pain you couldn't speak out loud. •

was starting to see why you carried those stupid facts like other kids dragged around security blankets—if I repeated them over and over, it almost made me feel better.

I get the whole lost-your-parents thing. Been there. But that don't have to turn you stupid. That's a choice, like wearing green stretch pants.

Writing is, among things, the place where we can help ourselves cope with the dark parts of our living

His years as a policeman had taught him to be not fearless, only to disregard the fact of being afraid.

It was a difficult time to be Irish, a difficult time to be twenty-one years of age and a difficult time to be a man who was attracted to other men. To be all three simultaneously required a level of subterfuge and guile that felt contrary to my nature.

Accept the situation in which you find yourself and everything will be so much easier.

We need to teach our inner child that problems are normal and that he must accept them.

To be shame-bound means that whenever you feel any feeling, need or drive, you immediately feel ashamed.

L. Lack of coping skills (underlearning). You never learned how to do many things necessary for a fully functional life. Your methods of problem-solving do not work, but you continue to use the same ones over and over. You learned ways of caring for your wounds that, in fact, perpetuated them. You have no real knowledge of what is normal. Your bottom-line tolerance is quite abnormal.

Once an emotion is toxically shame bound, one feels numb. The emotional avoidance is sealed by learning to avoid the avoidance.

A racket is a family-authorized feeling used to replace an unacceptable and shameful feeling.

Any time a new experience resembles the earlier traumatic experience, the original emotions are triggered and the original anchor is fired.

Shame is the master emotion because it binds all the other emotions. Freely expressing our feelings is like thawing out. As shame binds all our feelings, we become psychologically numb.

One of the things we know about grief resolution is that grief is one of the only problems in the world that will heal itself with support." (For a clear and concise discussion of unresolved grief read After the Tears by Jane Middelton-Moz and Lorie Dwinell.)

Whenever a shame-based person feels his real feelings, he feels ashamed. So, to avoid that pain he numbs out.

Contentment is taking your present situation—whatever obstacles you are facing, whatever limitation you are living with, whatever chronic condition wears you down, whatever has smashed your dreams, whatever factors and circumstances in life tend to push you under—and admitting you don't like it but never saying, "I can't cope with it.

La ansiedad y el temor son emociones debilitantes para el corazón humano, y también lo son las pérdidas. Pueden debilitarnos, encarcelarnos, paralizarnos, desalentarnos y enfermarnos. Para ser exitosos, necesitamos encontrar maneras de desatascarnos emocionalmente.

Sometimes life gets so difficult that you just need to laugh about it.

Life isn't always the way it's suppose to be, it's just the way it is. The way we cope with it is what makes the difference.

The pain experienced during a breakup is as individual as the millions of people who go through it.

Sometimes the only choice left to do is to stop caring. Make a pace and move forward no matter how it hurts because there is no reason to stay anymore...