Quotes About Coping

Live your life with self-awareness and you'll able to face all big and small difficulties with ease.

Self pity becomes your oxygen. But you learned to breathe it without a gasp. So, nobody even notices you're hurting.

No one should feel so low, to the point where they feel like they need to use suicide as a way out.

Tragedies don't kill you, she decided, "it's the messes. I can't stand messes. I'm not being a smart-cracker. You know I'm not when you meet me – don't you, honey?"9

Lo que me pase a mí no me importa. ¿O usted cree que después de la vida que llevé me va a asustar estar en una cárcel, con otras infelices como yo?" Juana fue condenada a nueve años de prisión.

We can only feel sorry for ourselves when our misfortunes are still supportable. Once this limit is crossed, the only way to bear the unbearable is to laugh at it.

The only way to get through life is to laugh your way through it. You either have to laugh or cry. I prefer to laugh. Crying gives me a headache.

Elder Neal A. Maxwell once said, "We are here in mortality, and the only way to go is through; there isn't any around!" I would add, the only way to get through life is to laugh your way through it. You either have to laugh or cry. I prefer to laugh. Crying gives me a headache.

You got to learn to accept the crap. Put it in a box in a corner and never open it again. Pretty soon, it'll go away." He knew that wasn't true,

We take the piss out of someone else because it makes us feel better about the stuff that's screwing us up.

These problems have been here so long that the only way I've been able to function at all is by learning to ignore them. Else I would be in a constant state of panic, unable to think or act constructively.

Faith is like a mental illness," Richard Dawkins has said, "a great cop out, the excuse to evade the need to think and evaluate evidence."2 Sam Harris agrees, saying, "We have names for people who have many beliefs for which there is no rational justification. When their beliefs are extremely common, we call them religious. Otherwise, they are likely to be called mad, delusional, or psychotic."3

I know from experience that you spend your tears on the big hurts, not the little day-to-day jabs." -Star

One absolutely crucial element in moving your brain from panic to logic is to put words to what you're feeling at each stage.

While the simple act of naming the emotions you feel at each stage in a crisis is part of the solution, it's just the first step.

To do that, follow these steps: 1. Say, "Tell me what happened." Venting allows the person to begin moving from blindly striking out (the most primitive response) to feeling emotional (a higher response). The person's screaming or yelling will upset you, but it's far less dangerous than the threat of physical violence—so let it happen.

Nearly all the violence that we hear about in the media is triggered by rage, and more specifically, by impotent rage. Impotent rage results when a person feels rejected and humiliated by people and feels powerless to do anything about it. Having few effective internal coping skills, the person explodes and lashes out at the world.

All of us—even if we're strong at the core—will occasionally lose it when stress causes our brains to misalign.

Why do these people behave the way they do? To stay in control. As I mentioned in Chapter 2, irrational people—especially those who are firmly in the grip of crazy—are terrified of losing control.

If you achieve triunal agility, you become adaptable and resilient. As a result, you can deal with whatever life throws at you—even big upsets and tragedies. Occasionally you'll slide into crazy when an upset causes your three brains to temporarily misalign, but you won't live there permanently.

The more anxious and alone or inadequate and incompetent they feel, the more tenaciously they hold to whatever thoughts, attitudes and behaviors bring relief. If they do not develop more effective coping mechanisms, the ones that bring relief solidify into self-defeating behaviors.

Self-defeating behavior occurs when we fail to learn the lessons that life tries to teach us. It represents the victory of impulse over awareness, immediate gratification over lasting satisfaction, relief over resolution. Self-defeating behavior invariably begins as an attempt to make ourselves feel better. It is a coping mechanism.

When faced with life's most challenging events, it's okay not to be okay.

Maybe I lacked coping skills. Maybe I was weak. I cared for people for no better reason than they seemed to care for me, acknowledge me. It didn't seem so dangerous at the time.