Quotes About Coping

If they have positive and secure experiences early on, they can feel safe and build positive relationships. If they have negative experiences, they see the world as unsafe and develop skills to negotiate the land mines of life. When that happens, their ways of coping might appear crazy to others.

It does no good to run. And it does no good to hide. But I know what it's like. Your brain shuts down, and you follow your instincts. Or, at least, you think you do. But you know what you're really doing? When you flee through the night, or crawl into your little bolt-hole? You know what's really guiding you? Controlling you? Pushing you on? Genre conventions .

Dwelling upon what once hurt you will only bring new surprises, new losses, more disappointments—new reasons to be hurt.

Verily, my life is falling apart and there's not a damn thing I can do about it.

Because that's the thing about grief no one ever tells you: it's greedy. You don't notice at first because you're still in shock, and there's so much to do, from obtaining death certificates to canceling utility contracts, but hour by hour, day by day, it eats up every last scrap of energy you have, leaving you spent and empty.

You gotta be prepared for something, pal. No matter how much you think you're doing the right thing, life can still take a wrong turn on you.

To me, sadness and humor aren't disrelated and humor is the best tool I've had against the sadness in my life.

So you're saying that after I take a disappointing shower I should get in bed and lay there and weep?

Light's all very well, brothers, but it's not easy to live with.

He lives all alone now, in the home they bought, and finally seems to be managing, more or less. Not the way he was, of course, with her, who lives alone now, too, at the same address. - Separatio in Loco

So things were coming together nicely for me to embark on a full-fledged depression. One good thing about New York is that most people function daily while in a low-grade depression.

After six months of hardship and going to therapy three times a week, Sandy's now elated. She realized—as has almost everyone I know who has been left or broken up with—that, by divorcing her, her husband relieved her of the job of eventually leaving him. As my mom has said, when one person is unhappy, it usually means two people are unhappy but that one has not come to terms with it yet. Sandy hadn't realized how unhappy she was until he was gone.

People often chase the danger they're least afraid of to distract them from the part of life that scares them most.

An interviewer once asked me if I could sum up everything I know about psychology in ten words or less. I said, "Hell, I can do it in two words: People cope.

classic psychological technique of dissociation, where they distance themselves from their own emotions as a way of coping with the bad things that are happening to them. They train themselves to stop feeling what they're feeling.

We increase our suffering through our attempts to avoid it

I learned that the only way to handle feelings is to get hostile, drunk, or stoned. That's what my parents did. That's what my brothers did. And that's what I did. I was addicted to drugs for years before I began to realize that if I didn't deal with my feelings, I would be dead.

Is it wrong to trust in a beautiful lie if it helps you get through life?

I give myself a good cry if I need it. But then I concentrate on the good things still in my life. I don't allow myself any more self-pity than that. A little each every morning, a few tears, and that's all.

Se retrouver abandonné est un coup porté à votre orgueil. Faites de votre mieux pour l'oublier et si vous ne réussissez pas, faites au moins semblant.

If you suppress grief too much, it can well redouble.

To find yourself jilted is a blow to your pride. Do your best to forget it and if you don't succeed, at least pretend to.

Sometimes you just had to feel it. Sometimes you had to let the terror and the anger and the fear tear you apart. So you could feel what came next.

The truth was that in the end, sad felt better than rage - a lot better. But rage came easier. Sad felt like the world was ending. (150)