Quotes About People-pleasing

Just about everything a Nice Guy does is consciously or unconsciously calculated to gain someone's approval or to avoid disapproval.

By trying to please everyone, Nice Guys often end up pleasing no one — including themselves. Seeking

IF I can hide my flaws and become what I think others want me to be •?THEN I will be loved, get my needs met, and have a problem-free life.

Women are giving a ton of reluctant yeses, and they are mad and getting madder. "Most women have a difficult time saying no, especially if they think someone's feelings may be at stake or if they think they'll not be liked," wrote Dr. Kathryn Lively.

It's easy to give everyone what they want. What's expected. The problem with doing this is you lose sight of where you truly begin and where the fake you, the one who tries to be everything to everyone, ends.

all Nice Guys developed the same paradigm: "If I am good, then I will be loved, get my needs met, and have a problem-free life.

By trying to please everyone, Nice Guys often end up pleasing no one — including themselves.

The seeking of external validation is just one way in which Nice Guys frequently do the opposite of what works. By trying to please everyone, Nice Guys often end up pleasing no one—including themselves.

will become whatever I believe a person wants me to be in order to be liked. With

Those who seek to please everybody please nobody.

If you spend your life trying to please people or letting them control you, you may make them happy, but you'll miss your destiny.

Because of the pressure to fit in and to please, we can find ourselves making decisions that don't align with our highest good. When we make decisions from the fear of being judged and/or rejected, we doom ourselves to this people-pleasing brand of decision-making.

When you please others in hopes of being accepted, you lose you self-worth in the process.

I wanted everybody to like me. I thought I was one shuck and jive away in every direction.

He believes that to be accepted by others he must do what they want and only what they want. He becomes a people pleaser and neglects taking care of himself.

I had never before considered that people near me might have problems that were not caused by me. I had been created to please people. If the people around me weren't happy, I must be doing something wrong. Lynn helped me see that I lacked the power to make other people feel anything.

I feel that familiar niggle of not wanting to disappoint anyone, ever, for any reason. Another female quirk, isn't it? Always be polite, meet expectations, smile when you don't want to, cry instead of getting angry. Be pleasing.

my joy. That was a great day in my life! Your time is too valuable to worry about pleasing everyone else or making them happy. I know people who spend more time worrying about what others think about them than they do focusing on their own dreams and goals. You've got to get free from that.

How much time and energy are you spending trying to get approval, trying to be well-liked, trying to keep this friend impressed, trying to stay in this coworker's favor? Take the pressure off. I would much rather spend my time pleasing God than trying to please people.

Pursuing fame is the ultimate in people-pleasing and the ultimate betrayal of self.

Being so eager to please, we're not easy to liberate. We're too aware of what others need.

Some of us get caught up in demands from others. These may be real responsibilities or may be the common ideas of what makes for success—money, prestige, security. Then there are the pressures others can bring to bear on us because we are so unwilling to displease anyone.

She said that wanting to be liked was a weakness of character.

For people like me, the fight-or-flight instinct comes out in the desperate desire to fix, people-please, and create harmony.