Quotes About People-pleasing

You use up everything you've got trying to give everybody what they want.

The constant need to make everyone else happy at the cost of your own happiness will destroy you.

These individuals need to see that as long as they continue to choose to please others at their own expense, they will be trapped. They need to discover how they try to control other people's responses by being the "good boy" or "nice girl" for them. They need to find the courage to give up that control by being frank and honest with people and allowing them to respond as they will.

Although at the time I didn't realize what was happening, I was unable to make a decision that might displease those around me. For years, whatever directive I may have issued ended with the phrase, 'If it's all right with you.' If I thought I'd done anything to make someone unhappy, I'd agonize.

He wished to please everybody, Franklin later said of Keith, and having little to give, he gave expectations.

Sometimes I'm very impatient. I also feel the need to please everyone, which is unnecessary and impossible.

There's something very addictive about people pleasing. It's a thought pattern and a habit that feels really, really good until it becomes desperate.

I would say that my fatal flaw, as a human being, is that I need people to like me, and if they don't like me, I will obsess over it - and try to change my personality until they like me - even if they don't like me for reasons that have nothing to do with me, and even if they're strangers.

People-pleasing is a form of assholery,

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When you love someone who is selfish and you want to stay close to them, you always end up trying to please them and that determines how you spend much of your day - even your life.

People pleasers, however, tend to overlook the reality that others are responsible

When people pleasers go too far in their pleasant ways, they may inadvertently be guilty of encouraging others to continue in selfish or disrespectful behavior. Instead of receiving kind gestures with a spirit of gratitude, some people respond with an attitude of entitlement.

Many Christian Nice Girls who were emotionally sifted during childhood want to believe that these painful events are safely in the past, never to bother them again; however, we have seen during years of working with hurting people that the aftereffects of certain harmful childhood experiences often intensify current problems with passivity, people pleasing, and fear-based decision making.

Beware of anyone who tries to please you all the time.

Ironically, we often fail to see that whenever we compromise ourselves to please others, we tend to lose their respect.

Eleven years of acting it has been for me, and I still sometimes think I am not cut out for this. I hate the people-pleasing that goes with it, and the stupid politics, but that is with every kind of work and job.

The inability to say no is largely about approval-seeking—people imagine that if they say no, they won't be loved by others.

ULCERS are no more than fear — tremendous fear of "not being good enough." We fear not being good enough for a parent, we fear not being good enough for a boss. We can't stomach who we are. We rip our guts apart trying to please others. No matter how important our job is, our inner self-esteem is very low. We are afraid they will find out about us.

what people thought of him, then he was no longer a servant of Christ (Galatians 1:10).

I could see (though not as clearly as I do now) that one of my biggest problems was me. Because I wanted everyone to like me and to approve of me, I tried to be nice to everyone all the time and this proved a remarkably efficient way of losing control over my life.

we must not confuse the disease to please with the command to love.

You've always been two people. The Jenna who wants to please and the Jenna who secretly resents in. They won't break, you know. Your parents never thought you were perfect. You did.

Codependents make great employees. They don't complain; they do more than their share; they do whatever is asked of them; they please people; and they try to do their work perfectly—at least for a while, until they become angry and resentful.