Quotes About People-pleasing

Just that sometimes we let other people treat us wrongly because we want to be loved and accepted so badly that we'd do anything for it. It hurts when you know that no matter how much you try, how much you want it, they can't love or accept you as you are. Then you hate all that time you wasted trying to please them and wonder what about you is so awful that they couldn't at least pretend to love you. - Bride

Sometimes we let them treat us badly because we yearn to feel loved and accepted so much that we are willing to do anything to get it. It's very painful to realize that no matter how much you try, you feel like it, do not even want to accept you as you are. When they finally understand you, I regret all that time you've spent pleasing others and you wonder what that is so horrible in you that prevents them even pretend to want.

quickly saw Nancy's problem: a need to be liked and viewed as caring and giving by virtually everyone she met.

First up was Nancy's pervasive sense of guilt. She felt self-conscious about going beyond her family's expectations, and feared being seen as "too big for her britches," a typical complaint in her family about anyone who was successful. As a result, Nancy was constantly trying to prove she didn't think she was better than anyone else. This made it almost impossible for her to say no.

I was anxious to please, even if I hated the recipient of my pleasing. My pleasee.

Just that sometimes we let other people treat us wrongly because we want to be loved and accepted so badly that we'd do anything for it. It hurts when you know that no matter how much you try, how much you want it, they can't love or accept you as you are. Then you hate all that time you wasted trying to please them and wonder what about you is so awful that they couldn't at least pretend to love you.

While I was doing stand-up, I thought I knew for sure that success meant getting everyone to like me. So I became whoever I thought people wanted me to be. I'd say yes when I wanted to say no, and I even wore a few dresses.

I always hope people will like me, and I'm always afraid they will think I'm a fraud. I try harder than perhaps I should to make people like me, then it backfires. They think I'm a buffoon.

Everyone's so timid and afraid to insult anybody, but in the end, it's like we're all trying to please everyone. In the end, we please no one.

If your paramount concern in life is to make sure everyone likes and approves of you, you're going to find yourself running in circles for the rest of your life.

If your paramount concern in life is to make sure everyone likes and approves of you, I'm sorry to say you're going to find yourself running in circles for the rest of your life.

The 'Housewives' has helped me find my voice. I was always a people-pleaser, and coming into a show like this, you end up losing that.

As girls grow up and download what it means to be a culturally acceptable 'good girl,' they learn to please others at the expense of themselves. They worry about protecting relationships - and what people think of them - at all costs.

For me, a big part of anxiety and depression was not knowing how to say 'no' and wanting to please too many people... part of this process is learning to draw the line and slow down.

I'm a total people pleaser.

Do not confuse the command to love with the disease to please.

Children who feel unloved and unprotected are like a half-filled cup. They become incapable of 'filling up' because they have come to believe they are unworthy of love. They try to please others, give to others, and care for others in a desperate hope that they may make themselves worthy.

When a nice girl overcompensates, her behavior says, "What I have to offer isn't enough, and who I am isn't enough.

The woman who is too nice senses that he "needs her" and she runs to his aid like a Red Cross rescue missionary. And she gives—blindly.

Codependents make great employees. They don't complain; they do more than their share; they do whatever is asked of them; they please people; and they try to do their work perfectly—at least for a while, until they become angry and resentful. Maria

You are always trying to please people before you get to the public whenever you do anything that requires a corporate body to sanction it.

In service industries, we can be so people-pleaser-y that you don't know how to set your own boundaries.

Anyone who cares more about pleasing other people than about their own happiness—anyone who believes, deep down, that everyone else matters more than they do—learns fluent dishonesty at a young age.

It's usually rooted either in a belief that other people matter more than you do – that's the people-pleasing part of it – or there could also be an element of perfectionism, the over-achiever's Achilles heel: you can't think well of yourself unless you're over-achieving, so you take on too much, try to do it all perfectly and wear yourself out .