Quotes About Understanding

You deserve very little credit for being what you are—and remember, the people who come to you irritated, bigoted, unreasoning, deserve very little discredit for being what they are. Feel sorry for the poor devils. Pity them. Sympathize with them. Say to yourself: "There, but for the grace of God, go I.

Saberlo todo es perdonarlo todo

Talk about your own mistakes before criticising the other person.

People have 1000 times more interest in themselves than in you. So give them time and importance.

And all I had been doing was talking when I should have been listening. I never heard her. "From that time on I let her do all the talking she wanted. She tells me what is on her mind, and our relationship has improved immeasurably. She is again a cooperative person.

Adler's statement is so rich with meaning that I am going to repeat it in italics: It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.

said: "People who can put themselves in the place of other people, who can understand the workings of their minds, need never worry about what the future has in store for them.

Si hay un secreto del éxito —dijo Henry Ford— reside en la capacidad para apreciar el punto de vista del prójimo y ver las cosas desde ese punto de vista así como del propio.

Cuando tratamos con personas, recordemos que no estamos tratando con criaturas lógicas. Estamos tratando con seres de emoción, seres humanos erizados de prejuicios, y motivados por el orgullo y la vanidad.

Begin by emphasizing—and keep on emphasizing—the things on which you agree. Keep emphasizing, if possible, that you are both striving for the same end and that your only difference is one of method and not of purpose.

If we do not understand the significance of our presence, we can never give anyone the present of our lives.

Principle 9 - Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.

hombre que conozco es superior a mí en algún sentido. En ese sentido, aprendo de él.

when you are displeased, it is much easier to criticize and condemn than it is to try to understand the other person's viewpoint; it is frequently easier to find fault than to find praise; it is more natural to talk about what you want than to talk about what the other person wants; and so on.

popularity, my happiness and sense of worth depend to no small extent upon my skill in dealing with people.

Most people trying to win others to their way of thinking do too much talking themselves. Let the other people talk themselves out. They know more about their business and problems than you do. So ask them questions. Let them tell you a few things.

And herein lies the tragedy of the age: not that men are poor,—all men know something of poverty; not that men are wicked,—who is good? not that men are ignorant,—what is Truth? Nay, but that men know so little of men.

Education must not simply teach work - it much teach life

In a world where it means so much to take a man by the hand and sit beside him, to look frankly into his eyes and feel his heart beating with red blood; in a world where a social cigar or a cup of tea together means more than legislative halls and magazine articles and speeches,—one can imagine the consequences of the almost utter absence of such social amenities between estranged races, whose separation extends even to parks and streetcars.

John, she said, does it make every one—unhappy when they study and learn lots of things? He paused and smiled. I am afraid it does, he said.

It is easy for us to lose ourselves in details in endeavoring to grasp and comprehend the real condition of a mass of human beings. We often forget that each unit in the mass is a throbbing human soul.

They approach me in a half-hesitant sort of way, eye me curiously or compassionately, and then, instead of saying directly, How does it feel to be a problem? they say, I know an excellent colored man in my town; or, I fought at Mechanicsville; or, Do

And herein lies the tragedy of the age: not that men are poor,—all men know something of poverty; not that men are wicked,—who is good? not that men are ignorant,—what is Truth? Nay, but that men know so little of men. He

herein lies the tragedy of the age: not that men are poor,—all men know something of poverty; not that men are wicked,—who is good? not that men are ignorant,—what is Truth? Nay, but that men know so little of men.