Quotes About Self-compassion

To forgive ourselves for what we didn't do Replay a scene over and over in mind Change it change Apologizing to our own story handful of soil I could have planted something better here To walk without remembering another walk To wash off the hoped of a darkened day Make a new one

Life has enough torturers as it is, without you going around moonlighting as a Grand Inquisitor against yourself.

Get up in the morning and make the decision to take a step forward instead of two backward for that day. Let go of the guilt, and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Don't let the what-ifs drive you crazy, because they will if you let them. I'm speaking from experience.

We can't go back and redo or undo the past, but we don't have to let it define us

I must stop feeling so deeply but I must not be numb; I must move on but I must not forget; I must be happy but not reject sadness; I must embrace but not cling; I must deal with but not dwell on; I must confront but not attack; I must eliminate but not annihilate; I must be gentle with myself but I must be strong.

Those things don't matter. You had no control over your past

You're doing so good, I told myself. I'm so proud of you. You just have to get through this. You can go home in fifteen minutes. I wondered how many women had given themselves the same lecture: the girl who'd held her head up at a dance where her date was paying attention to another classmate; the woman who'd been passed by for promotion at her job; the woman who had listened to a dire diagnosis and yet kept her face together.

I'll sit on the floor and cry if I'm having a meltdown. I don't care.

The interesting thing for me is, if I met Michael Peterson in person, I'd want him to let himself off the hook just a little bit.

We don't need to control our body, mind, and breath. We can just be there for them. We allow them to be themselves. This is nonviolence.

First, we just acknowledge that it is there inside us. If we don't listen to our own suffering, we won't understand it, and we won't have compassion for ourselves. Compassion is the element that helps heal us. Only when we have compassion for ourselves, can we truly listen to another person.

As children, we were very vulnerable. We got hurt easily. This pain is still inside us. The wounded five-year-old child in us is still there and needs to be heard. If we want to be able to connect with others and understand them, we have to be able to do the same for ourselves first. We can practice getting in touch with our inner child, to recognize, embrace, and transform their pain.

The habits of drinking alcohol or getting angry are also you, and therefore you must treat them with great tenderness and nonviolence. The essential point is not to create conflict, a fight, within yourself.

No one is more worthy of your kindness and compassion than you are.

We do not produce mindfulness to chase away or fight our anger but to take good care of it.

You are more capable of helping yourself if you treat yourself with compassion and a loving heart.

Er een eind aan maken: maar zou dat niet haast een beetje heldhaftig zijn voor een 'paljas'? Het zal er wel op uitdraaien, ben ik bang, dat ik verder ga met leven, met eten en slapen, en me met het een of ander zoet te houden; en misschien zal ik er zo langzamerhand aan wennen en in schikken een 'ongelukkige en belachelijke figuur' te zijn.

I have made many mistakes and done a lot of foolish things, but when I look back on the person I was, I feel affection for him and laugh at him.

I encourage you, therefore, to hold your imperfections tenderly. Value the learning of life lessons as an important part of becoming a wise and mature human being.

Those who hurt you in the past have no authority to determine whether or not you will live a life of love and fulfillment. You are the only one holding that power.

You must go back to rescue the younger you from that wacky and distorted hall of mirrors. Because the meaning you made about yourself and your life—that you are bad, not wanted, not loved, too much, not enough, powerless, and/or destined to be alone in life—is simply not true.

Every way that you've given away your power, denied your own deeper knowing, put someone else's feelings and needs before your own, stayed embedded in a victimized story, or settled for less in life—all of it is now up for review. You have nowhere to hide. Life has broken you open and it is violently, mercilessly forcing you to evolve, to develop, and to grow. In

For while all forgiveness is the balm of our compassionate Mother, self-forgiveness is needed most of all. Embrace

There is no shame in struggling, there is no shame in finding things hard and there is absolutely no shame in getting the support you need, whenever you need it. Because nobody is perfect, and nobody is always getting it right – we are all just winging it as best we can.