Quotes About Emotional intelligence

The reason we're often not there for others - whether for our child or our mother or someone who is insulting us or someone who frightens us - is that we're not there for ourselves.

think of a time when you were angry, when someone said or did something that you didn't like, a time when you wanted to get even or you wanted to vent. Now, what if you had been able to stop, breathe deeply, and slow the process down? Right on the spot you could connect with natural openness. You could stop, give space, and empower the wolf of patience and courage instead of the wolf of aggression and violence.

When we find ourselves in a mess, we don't have to feel guilty about it. Instead, we could reflect on the fact that how we relate to this mess will be sowing the seeds of how we will relate to whatever happens next. We can make ourselves miserable, or we can make ourselves strong. The amount of effort is the same. Right now we are creating our state of mind for tomorrow, not to mention this afternoon, next week, next year, and all the years of our lives.

Before we can heal others with our speech, we need to get a handle on our own mind and its propensities.

Here's something that's very helpful to know about now. The biggest obstacle to taking a bigger perspective on life is that our emotions capture and blind us.

But honesty without kindness makes us feel grim and mean

Men often make up in wrath what they want in reason.

A kiss on the nose does much toward turning aside anger.

Whenever you are angry shut your mouth. So that you can save yourself from loosing the beloved ones.

When heart speaks and heart listens, harmony is produced. When head talks and head listens, argument is produced.

Using insult instead of argument is the sign of a small mind.

Argument need not be heated; it can be punctuated with courteous smiles - or sympathetic tears.

One of the best ways of keeping your temper in an argument, as most of us know only too well, is not to listen to anything the other person has to say.

...part of the mind's job was to cast doubt on what the heart knew to be true, and the heart, because it had no words, often lost the argument

Also, as a rule of thumb, if you find yourself defending your inalienable right to make someone else feel like garbage, you're on the wrong side of the argument.

If someone tells me that I've hurt their feelings, I say, 'I'm still waiting to hear what your point is.

Intellect is the virtue of ignoring one's emotions' attempt to contaminate one's opinions.

If I create from the heart, nearly everything works; if from the head, almost nothing.

The true mark of maturity is when someone hurts you and you try and understand their situation instead of hurting them back.

Habitual texters may not only cheat their existing relationships, they can also limit their ability to form future ones since they don't get to practice the art of interpreting nonverbal visual cues.

The arts can bring the heart to the aid of the head, the personal to the political.

Never elated when someone's oppressed, never dejected when another one's blessed.

A casual attitude toward human hurt and pain is the surest sign of educational failure.

Changing your attitude from self-centerdness to understanding requires desire and commitment to always try to see things from the other persons point of view.