Quotes About Validation

People are histrionic to get people thinking about them. We are excessive when something about ourselves needs to be recognized and we need other people to help us work out what it is.

I do have brown eyes, something that I had established a few years ago, with the less exciting technology of a mirror. Nevertheless, it is nice to have it confirmed at a molecular biological level. The

Diet is not easy to validate in the deep past, but the clues from genetics suggest that the basis for the Paleo Diet is nuts, even if you're not allowed to eat peanuts.

You'll never go wrong if you describe what you think the child might be feeling ('You must be so proud of yourself!') or what the child has accomplished ('A lot of practice and perseverance went into winning that medal').

Children don't appreciate having the names they call themselves repeated by their parents. When a child tells you he's dumb or ugly or fat, it's not helpful to reply with "Oh, so you think you're dumb," or "You really feel you're ugly." Let's not cooperate with him when he calls himself names. We can accept his pain without repeating the name.

Let us realize that, along with food, shelter, and clothing, we have another obligation to our children, and that is to affirm their "rightness." The whole world will tell them what's wrong with them—loud and often. Our job is to let our children know what's right about them.

What people of all ages can use in a moment of distress is not agreement or disagreement; they need someone to recognize what it is they're experiencing.

The whole world will tell them what's wrong with them—loud and often. Our job is to let our children know what's right about them.

Conclusion: What people of all ages can use in a moment of distress is not agreement or disagreement; they need someone to recognize what it is they're experiencing.

It's much more helpful for an unhappy youngster to hear, "I see something is making you sad," rather than to be interrogated with "What happened?" or "Why do you feel that way?" It's easier to talk to a grown-up who accepts what you're feeling rather than one who presses you for explanations.

by listening with full attention, by acknowledging his feelings with a word, by giving a name to his feelings, and by granting him his wishes in fantasy.

TO HELP WITH FEELINGS 1. Listen with full attention. 2. Acknowledge their feelings with a word—"Oh" . . . "Mmm" . . . "I see." 3. Give their feelings a name. 4. Give them their wishes in fantasy.

But I do remember how I felt when he said I was pretty. I was disappointed. I felt my lack. I wanted to be beautiful. Beautiful suggests gravitas, importance. Pretty is lightweight and suggests 'somewhat'. I needed him to think of me as beautiful. I felt challenged, as though he had thrown down a gauntlet.

I am less desirous to explain phenomena than to establish their existence.

Women have been driven mad, "gaslighted", for centuries by the refutation of our experience and our instincts in a culture which validates only male experience. The truth of our bodies and our minds has been mystified to us. We therefore have primary obligation to each other: not to undermine each other's sense of reality for the sake of expediency; not to gaslight each other.

The tentativeness, the anxiety, sometimes approaching paralysis, the confusing, described in many of these essays by intelligent, educated, "privileged" women, are themselves evidence of the damage that an be done to the creative energy by the lack of continuity, historical validation, community. Most women, it seems, have gone through their travails in a kind of spiritual isolation, alone both in the present and in ignorance of their place in any female tradition.

My face is my passport.

The House of Lords says I'm not a member of it. My passport says I am - get used to it.

The Oscar nomination is great. It's a great pat on the back. And I like that.

If you can make people laugh, you know you're getting it right; it's an instant pat on the back.

People think that if you've written a book and somebody's given you a pat on the back then, you know, it's all - you're all settled, you know? You're going to be fine. I know that if I'm not confused, and really afraid, my work isn't going to be any good.

I don't need a certificate of my patriotism from those in the establishment.

When guys like Mark Henry, Paul Heyman, and Booker T all come up to me and tell me how much they appreciate my work and give me feedback on what to do better and how to improve myself it's honestly just scary.

Everybody who I ever cared about has told me that they like my music: Bob Dylan, Paul McCartney, Al Green, The Spinners, Smokey Robinson. Everybody that matters.