Quotes About Validation

I like not only to be loved, but to be told that I am loved; the realm of silence is large enough beyond the grave. George Eliot

My parents' twisted version of this boiled down to: "As f*cked up as we are, we're still way better than you".

my own flight response got channeled into acquiring academic skills for which the outside world rewarded me. But the benefit of these rewards never penetrated my toxic shame enough to allow me to feel that I was a worthwhile person.

Perhaps there was no more detrimental consequence of our childhood abandonment than being forced to habitually hide our authentic selves. Many of us come out of childhood believing that what we have to say is as uninteresting to others as it was to our parents.

And so each man wants and works, almost automatically, for the approval of his people.

If we have the courage, the implication is, we will enter this new Nietzschean universe, where there are no guaranteed facts, only interpretations, none of which has the stamp of authority upon it, since there is no longer any authoritative center to which to appeal for validation of our interpretations.

A large part of our excessive, unnecessary manifestations come from a terror that if we are not somehow signaling all the time that we exist, we will in fact no longer be there

I knew my mother was right, but that didn't change the way I felt about things. People always think that if they can prove they're right, you'll change your mind.

Officially. That's what it'll be: officially vindicated.

Tucker is on a roll. It usually takes two beers for him to like himself but tonight he only needs half a can.

Do you intend to correct my words, and treat as wind my cry of despair?

Are we beginning to commend ourselves again? Or do we need, like some people, letters of recommendation to you or from you?

Indeed, I was not embarrassed by anything I had boasted to him about you. But just as everything we said to you was true, so our boasting to Titus has proved to be true as well.

For it is not the one who commends himself who is approved, but the one whom the Lord commends.

Demetrius has received a good testimony from everyone, and from the truth itself. We also testify for him, and you know that our testimony is true.