Quotes About Validation

Everyone always tells you that you're the only one that can do this or that role right, and if you say no, they go to somebody else and tell them that they're the only one that can do it right. But when they're talking to you, you're always the 'Best Actor of Your Generation.'

People come into public life for different reasons. None of us are ego-challenged, I think, or we probably wouldn't be doing what we're doing, so if anyone tells you that they don't like the sound of the applause and the ego gratification, I don't think they're being straight with you.

It's good to say, 'Look, I can't always be right, but my gut tells me this' - and then you confirm with your gut.

I'm constantly dogged with a feeling of fraudulence, so if somebody tells me they like what I've written, then I immediately begin to think it's rubbish.

The biggest compliment I get is when someone tells me, 'You're so real.' Even if my journey isn't exactly like theirs.

What I actually do put much more weight on, in all honesty, is not being critically acclaimed - it's being respected by my OGs. When I talk to E-40 on the phone, every time I talk to him, I'm like, you know, if he tells me I'm doing good, I'm doing good.

There is a sense that if you're not on the telly then you might have died. I'm aware that's how people largely judge you.

If people think I am a failure because I am not on telly every day, that is their problem.

I think shows like 'Dancing on Ice,' 'X Factor' and 'Britain's Got Talent' make great telly, but I'd never want to be contestant. I'm far too insecure and competitive. Also, working in theatre, you're being judged all the time - and I'd rather not be told I'm awful in front of millions of people!

You pick women who aren't good enough, and then you rationalize how they treat you rather than just telling them they aren't good enough for you.

People are looking for a demonstration, not an explanation.

La mancanza di critiche, o anche solo di una silenziosa disapprovazione da parte di Robin, era una cosa davvero singolare per Strike. Era l'unica persona di sesso femminile nella sua vita che non avesse cercato di migliorarlo o correggerlo.

Am I evil? Jago says I am. I used to think I couldn't be, because you loved me.

Some people need to be needed . . .

To award prizes is to attempt to control the course of another man's work. It is a bid to have him do what you will approve. It affects not only the one who wins the award, but all those who in any measure strive for it.

Confidence is the prize given to the mediocre

He believes that to be accepted by others he must do what they want and only what they want. He becomes a people pleaser and neglects taking care of himself.

Being liked was not much of a reward for being poor and disrespected. By the same token, money and respect were more than enough consolation for having a pack of insecure neurotics dislike me.

That is fine. Feeling a need to convince others that you are right also is something that comes from religion, I think; I am simply content to know that I am right, even if others do not know it.

I do not know whether as a child I was really ugly, but I remember well that I was often told that I was and that I must therefore strive to show inward virtues and intelligence. Up to the age of fourteen or fifteen, I was firmly convinced of my ugliness and was therefore more concerned with acquiring inward accomplishments and was less mindful of my outward appearance.

narcissistic personality disorder. These people really feel that they are the center of the universe (although they aren't centered themselves) and that others exist to serve them. Instead of mirroring others, they insatiably seek mirroring from them. Instead of seeing others, they seek to be seen by them.

Your admission to Complainers that you are at fault is not only likely to be taken as a sign of submission, but, more importantly, you are just confirming their belief that the power to solve the problems that they are pointing out is, in truth, yours. You validate for them the fact that indeed it's all your fault and they are blameless.

How many pessimists end up desiring the things they fear, in order to prove they are right?

First you guess. Don't laugh, this is the most important step. Then you compute the consequences. Compare the consequences to experience. If it disagrees with experience, the guess is wrong. In that simple statement is the key to science. It doesn't matter how beautiful your guess is or how smart you are or what your name is. If it disagrees with experience, it's wrong. That's all there is to it. – Richard Feynman