Quotes About Validation

Gymn says your fine. He's examined your internal organs and found nothing lacking.

Maybe I am a little bit guilty of trying to convince myself that I am cool to this point - even today. But I am so much more healthy than I used to be in my twenties, because I was not accepted at all.

I was never considered cool throughout my teens: a very important time to be accepted by someone, especially your peers. Yes, I had all the screaming women, but the guys hated my guts.

You are not your poetry. Your self-esteem shouldn't depend on whether you publish, or whether some editor or writer you admire thinks you're any good.

Every man is said to have his peculiar ambition," he wrote. "I have no other so great as that of being truly esteemed of my fellow men, by rendering myself worthy of their esteem.

I had no illusions at all that I was beautiful, pretty or even able to attract the right sort of attention from men

I imagine you come across a number of people who are disconcerted by the difference between what you do feel and what they fancy you ought to feel. It is fatal to pay the smallest attention to them.

A technique for good listening is to listen to what your partner has to say without interrupting and let them know you heard them by telling them what you think they just said.

If you think someone is ridiculous for finding you attractive, we worry about your self-esteem.

Good communication is based on identifying our feelings, expressing them, and getting validation that our partner hears and understands what we are saying, whether or not they agree. Emotions are not opinions, they are facts—truths about what people are experiencing.

Most of us resent it when another person tells us how we feel—whether or not they are correct, it is a violation of our boundaries when another person presumes to tell us what our inner truth is. Try asking a respectful question. "How are you feeling right now? I'm wondering if you're sad.

If you believe that you can use sex to shore up your fragile self-esteem by stealing someone else's, we feel sorry for you, because this will never work to build a solid sense of self worth, and you will have to go on stealing more and more and never getting fulfilled.

Forget about being world famous, it's hard enough just getting the automatic doors at the supermarket to acknowledge our existence.

A lot of guys write books that are nothing but a compendium of women they've had sex with. Those guys are vapid assholes. Yet there are times when getting laid can pull your ego and confidence up from the ashes, especially when you are young and honestly feel out of your league. It's meaningless in the long run but at the time it works.

Go on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter, and what do you see? Heated, vitriolic arguments. Fake news. Photos taken at parties you weren't invited to. The perfect, curated lives of others that make your own life seem lacking by comparison

sabemos que algunas personas no se detienen ante nada con tal de ver cumplido aquello que consideran cierto. La pregunta es si aquello que una persona o un grupo de personas consideran cierto acerca de sí mismas debe ser aceptado o no como tal por el resto de la sociedad.

Receiving feedback sits at the intersection of these two needs—our drive to learn and our longing for acceptance.

We live in a narcissistic age, which means that many want to have the praise that comes from having read, without the antecedent labor of actually reading.

In the early days of my career, I always wrote with skeptics in mind, trying to make sure they would approve of my work.

Insecurity can also develop from a critical parent who focused on our weaknesses or failures or didn't feel we measured up to some unspoken standard.

You wouldn't worry so much about what other people thought about you if you knew how seldom they did.

I cant hear the critics talking over the applause.

Being a Barrymore didn't help me, other than giving me a great sense of pride and a strange spiritual sense that I felt OK about having the passion to act. It made sense because my whole family had done it and it helped rationalise it for me.

In all your life, you will never find a method more effective in getting through to another person than to make that person feel important.