Quotes About Validation

What do you do when you finally hear everything you've always thought said aloud?

I'd done the right thing. I always did. It just would have been nice if someone had noticed.

Well, I said finally, knowing he was waiting, you make me laugh. He nodded. And? You're pretty good-looking. Pretty good-looking? I called you beautiful. You want to be beautiful? I asked him. Are you saying I'm not?

It hadn't even occured to me that somebody would believe mine.

She stroked my hair and told me I was beautiful, but I was old enough by then to know not to believe it anymore.

It didn't matter that I'd done none of those things. With shame, like horseshoes, proximity counts.

The trouble with comparing yourself to others is that there are too many others. Using all others as your control group, all your worst fears and all your fondest hopes are at once true. You are good; you are bad; you are abnormal; you are just like everyone else.

We should lower the bar for what must happen in a person's life for their suffering to be acknowledged. "The current paradigm is encouraging all of us to think we are in abusive relationships," Hodes explained. "And if you are not in an abusive relationship, you don't deserve help. Being 'abused' is what makes you 'eligible.' But everyone deserves help when they reach out for it.

It's pathetic to want to be liked by someone who has made it clear they don't like you.

There seems to be no end to the satisfaction one gets in having one's opinions confirmed.

Has our enslavement to dopamine—to the instant hits of validation that come with a well-crafted tweet or Snapchat streak—made us happier? I suspect it has simply made us less unhappy, or rather less aware of our unhappiness, and that our phones are merely new and powerful antidepressants of a non-pharmaceutical variety

Being right was largely a matter of explanations.

But it's a tiresome preoccupation, self-esteem. Something has to be done to limit the number of people whose opinions can affect us.

One of the paradoxes of writing is that when you write non-fiction everyone tries to prove that it's wrong, and when you publish fiction, everyone tries to see the truth in it.

Skeptics," he said, "suffer from the skeptics' disease— the problem of being right too often.

shyness is caused by an internal feeling that you are not worthy to be in the conversation.

But never being wrong is no proof that the method of testing is sound for all cases

about finding evidence of the past) And when you get that confirmation, it would instantly become the past itself. So in effect, you would be using the past, which does not exist, to confirm something else from the past. And if you repeat the process a thousand times, with a thousand different pieces of evidence, together they would still be nothing but impressions of the past supporting other impressions of the past.

Cuando busque la verdad, su mejor opción es buscar una confirmación al menos en dos de las dimensiones que he incluido en la lista.

Being fathomed was even better than being flattered, it turned out.

And I keep telling Stefan I'm not stupid

praise and recognition based upon performance are the oxygen of the human spirit

Useless people are not improved by giving them the impression they are useful.

But if you express your pride in me, then I feel reassured that I am really important.… I need to be reassured and told this often, just as I need to see and feel tangible evidence of your love.…