Quotes About Validation

Never allow anyone who has not invested in you to define you. You always need to see proof of a Return on Investment.

Your worth cannot be determined by the value others place on you it can only be determined by what you know to be true about yourself

It's crazy. My life has been full of fun and adventure. but i love meeting people who make me feel like I've done nothing.

My friends are always conscious of what people think of them. As though life is something that has an audience.

For me, I can not be right in anything unless there is no counter thoughts that contradict my wrong, in this case my thoughts will be right.

If I have a deeper relationship with myself, my roots go downwards toward an intrinsic sense of worth, not outward toward an extrinsic search for validation, not even in a conditional and often fleeting reputation with myself.

We're not afraid of who we are. We're afraid of who we think we're not. We strive, then, not to become the best version of ourselves. We strive instead for what we think will make us most worthy in the eyes and opinions of others.

What you love determines what you feel shame about. If you love for men to make much of you, you will feel shame when they don't. But if you love for men to make much of Christ, then you will feel shame if he is belittled on your account.

In my job, nobody ever says a word when you do something right, but make one mistake?

And the first thing I did, why, I bought myself a flaming-red dress and higheeled sequined shoes and everyone thought I was Real, and Miss Thing said, 'Hurray, honey! youve done it—stick to it

The beliefs which we have the most warrant for have no safeguard, but a standing invitation to the whole world to prove them unfounded.

The beliefs which we have most warrant for, have no safeguard to rest on, but a standing invitation to the whole world to prove them unfounded.

Addicting people to praise as a motivator puts them on a slippery slope toward a lifetime of fear and exploitation, always looking for some expert to approve of them.

Every person needs the blessing to feel truly loved and secure about himself or herself. W

Christian signs and wonders are beyond rationality, but they serve a rational purpose: to authenticate the gospel. The gospel is opposed to the pluralistic lie that says all religious experience is equally valid. Signs and wonders validate Christ's sacrifice on the cross and His lordship over every area of our lives.

I told you all this so that you understand that if someone says that something is so, that does not prove that it is so.

When we fear what other people think about us, we are frequently more focused on 'being interesting' and less focused on 'taking an interest.' That's why many people talk a great deal when they are anxious and why many people never feel heard. If both people and conversation are trying to be interesting, there is no one left to genuinely listen.

Whenever I talk to anyone I care about, I am always seeking approval. There is always a pleading lilt in my voice that demands love. Even the people I work with, the ones I am supposed to have a professional relationship with, all business, get pulled into my need. I can't help it. I want to be adored.

In a strange way, I had fallen in love with my depression. Dr. Sterling was right about that. I loved it because I thought it was all I had. I thought depression was the part of my character that made me worthwhile. I thought so little of myself, felt that I had such scant offerings to give to the world, that the one thing that justified my existence at all was my agony.

Can't you see that it doesn't matter what the world thinks if you've done your work the best you knew how to do?

When we were growing up our parents somehow made it clear that being famous was good. And I mistakenly thought that if I was famous then everyone would love me.

I, also, decided to get rid of the need of approval. That is a strong addiction, the need of approval, isn't it? That---I'm on the patch right now, actually. It releases small doses of approval until I no longer crave it. And, I'm going to rip it off!

The most common reason we hesitate when presented with the opportunity to express ourselves creatively is our fear of other people's negative opinions.

to be positive would be to accept positive statements by others, that is, compliments, but as we've seen, to do so sets us up for negative punishment.