Quotes About Validation

We can train ourselves to respect our feelings and to transpose them into a

Sedan du sålunda fått ditt erkännande av utlänningen, så har du fått ditt namn här hemma naturligtvis och jag slipper gå längre och skämmas för dig.

To be more confident you need to give a whole lot less of a shit about that other people think of you.

When you say, I need more confidence, what you're really saying is, I need those people over there to approve of me. That is the desire to control other people and what they think. The first person who figures out how to do this owns the world.

Confidence is a reduction of your own interest in whether others are thinking about you and if so, what they're thinking.

If i wasn't an accident mustn't I be a crushing disappointment?

Do you understand that you are exactly attractive enough and thin enough (even though you weigh four hundred pounds) and smart enough and funny enough, even if you cannot tell a knock knock joke without fucking it up? You are exactly everything enough to the person who thinks you are.

I was desperate to show him what I could do on my own. But my father, because he hadn't been there, simply didn't believe what I was actually capable of accomplishing.

Put another way, to be more confident you need to give a whole lot less of a shit about what other people think of you. Confidence is not something you feel or possess; it's something others use to describe what they see when they look at you.

Do you understand that you are exactly attractive enough and thin enough (even if you weight four hundred pounds) and smart enough and funny enough, even if you cannot tell a knock knock joke without fucking it up? You are exactly everything enough to the person who thinks you are

When you say, "I need more confidence," what you're really saying is, "I need those people over there to approve of me." That is the desire to control other people and what they think. The first person who figures out how to do this owns the world.

When you say, "I need more confidence," what you're really saying is, "I need those people over there to approve of me." That is the desire to control other people and what they think.

I was drunk from the attention

Hell, I suppose if you stick around long enough they have to say something nice about you.

Never ask people about your work.

A quest for self-respect is proof of its lack

There is no affirmation without the one who affirms. in this sense, everything to which you grant your love is yours

They have no concern for facts, ideas, work. They're concerned only with people. They don't ask: 'Is this true?' They ask: 'Is this what others think is true?' Not to judge, but to repeat. Not to do, but to give the impression of doing. Not creation, but show. Not ability, but friendship. Not merit, but pull.

He's not really struggling even for material wealth, but for the second-hander's delusion—prestige. A stamp of approval, not his own. He can find no joy in the struggle and no joy when he has succeeded.

Why is it so important - what others have done? Why does it become sacred by the mere fact of not being your own? Why is anyone and everyone right - so long as it's not yourself? Why does the number of those others take the place of truth? Why is truth made a mere matter of arithmetic - and only of addition at that? Why is everything twisted out of all sense to fit everything else?

Are you saying," he asked slowly, "that I rose in your estimation when you found that I wanted you?" "Of course." "That's not the reaction of most people to being wanted." "It isn't." "Most people feel that they rise in their own eyes, if others want them." "I feel that others live up to me, if they want me....

Most people feel that they rise in their own eyes, if others want them." "I feel that others live up to me, if they want me...

In one job, his boss always seemed to criticize him for what he did wrong and never noticed all the things he did right.

He was unflinching, but touched too on his secret weapon, one especially valuable in 1771: "The opinion of others," he assured his former father-in-law, "I very little regard.