Quotes About Validation

Most people feel that they rise in their own eyes, if others want them. I feel that others live up to me, if they want me. And that is the way you feel, too, Hank, about yourself—whether you admit it or not.

They seemed to want her approval, without having to know whether she approved or not.

I trust that no one will tell me that men such as I write about don't exist. That this book has been written—and published—is my proof that they do.

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She had been proved right so eloquently, she had thought, that comments were unnecessary.

If you tell a beautiful woman that she is beautiful, what have you given her? It's no more than a fact and it has cost you nothing.

He does not regard "because I want it" or "because I feel like it" as a sufficient cause and validation of his actions. He chooses and/or identifies his desires by a process of reason, and he does not act to achieve a desire until and unless he is able rationally to validate it in the full context of his knowledge and of his other values and goals. He does not act until he is able to say: "I want it because it is right.

Women are taught from early childhood that their worth is proportional to their attractiveness.

The reason I am so popular is that I give others back what they need to find in themselves. You need me not because I tell you what I want you to do but because I articulate and justify what you want to do.

To be known. To be heard. To have one's unique identity recognized and seen as worthy. It was a universal human desire, I thought, as true for nations and peoples as it was for individuals.

They spend half they lives worrying about what white folks think.

be known. To be heard. To have one's unique identity recognized and seen as worthy. It was a universal human desire, I thought, as true for nations and peoples as it was for individuals.

It just gets old, you know? Always defending your choices. No one ever imagines your reasons might be well thought out, that it might actually be the least selfish choice you'll ever make. Not all of us believe our lives are meaningless unless we reproduce.

man equate their self-esteem with accomplishment

I did it to win love, and to prove myself capable. Not to move mountains. In my opinions, mountains don't move. They only look changed when you look down on them from great height.

That the electorate could validate such a mean, grabby, self-aggrandizing man. At any level.

The question is, why do you think you can't be a writer? To be a writer, you need readers. I'm no painter, then. Who ever looks at my little dumb pieces of shit?

An "orthonymous" (literally, "rightly named") writing is one that really is written by the person who claims to be writing it.

I think only your mother can truly make you feel lower than whale shit.

If you write (or paint or dance or sculpt or sing, I suppose), someone will try to make you feel lousy about it

He didn't just dig me; he dug me the MOST. Nothing can compare to hearing something like that from a seventeen-year-old kid who looks like he might be fully awake for the first time in his academic career.

As you care less about what people think of you, you will care more about what others think of themselves.

If I were emotionally dependent, my sense of worth and security would come from your opinion of me.

In other words, when we truly love others without condition, without strings, we help them feel secure and safe and validated and affirmed in their essential worth, identity, and integrity. Their natural growth process is encouraged. We make it easier for them to live the laws of life—cooperation, contribution, self-discipline, integrity—and to discover and live true to the highest and best within them.